Chi townD Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I was talking to a guy on here last year. He was from Bulgaria; or maybe some other eastern European country, I can't remember. But, his girlfriend did him wrong. Cheated on him and left him for this dude. And, off handedly, he said he needed to get out of there, but he didn't have a job to make a clean break. After talking to him, he did his own research and he found a company that was looking for seasonal help in Melbourne Australia for a year. The pay wasn't good, but room and board was included. After some encouragement, he took the plunge. Did his paperwork, got his passport in order and the Australian company sponsored his work visa. He brought everything to the Australian embassy and his own countries authorities to make sure everything was on the up and up. And that was that! Off he went to Australia! Haven't heard from him since. SO, I guess he's doing great. Clean break is what he needed. 1
Lennon Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I moved to France four weeks ago to help me move on and to start a new life, before at home i was a mess for months and living in the city everything reminded me of her (restaurants, bars, coffee shops, places we'd go for walks, the cinema, everything). I've been in N/C since i got here too, blocked her on facebook, skype, and deleted my email account last week as i was tired of checking my email looking for breadcrumbs. 'the last email was wishing me a merry xmas and telling me she never takes off a neckalace i got her as a gift, what am i supposed to with that information, does she love me? why would she tell me this but not want to be with me. Torturing myself with every breadcrumb email i received so i cut the cord. If she is ever really desperate to contact me, she'll find a way, its not hard to send a fbook message from a friends account, it doesn't take a genious, but i'm not banking on it. She'll be suprised when her next email is rejected. Just to let you know, i moved to a country with a different culture, different language and i am starting from scratch completely. I don't know the language, just the basics, but i'm learning everyday. I know if i could speak french fluently i would be having the time of my life right now but i'm somewhat cut off from people because i can't have a conversation with most people here. My mental health has gotten alot better since i got here, the feeling of being completely on my own in a different country under my own steam is a confidence booster. I still think of her but its becoming less frequent although i have been having serious trouble sleeping lately but hopefully when i've moved on enough she'll be out of my head. I have a new apartment, a new job and i'm actually thinking of staying and making a life for myself here if all continues to go well, like i said the only thing holding me back is the language, once i'm comfortable with that, i feel like things are going to be alot better. i've also been dating a french girl i met here for a couple of weeks and she's helping me with the language. Your talking about moving to a new city, in your own country, with your own customs and your own language. Do it man, what do you have to lose. I've only been here four weeks and things are taking a turn for the better, new job, new country, dating a new girl already. i'm no longer waking up in the morning in the pits of dispair or waking up crying in the middle of the night. I still feel down and depressed sometimes thinking of her but its getting better gradually. I'm just growing numb to it i think. I've told the new girl, i'm not ready for a relationship too as i got my heart torn out a couple of months ago and she understands, she's been there. It could be the best thing you do man, I say go for it, life is all about new experiences, it could make you a better man. Bonne chance 1
Author spaceboy409 Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 I have financial of support of my family luckily till I get on my feet so that won't really be a problem. I would also be moving in with an old friend so I would have a roommate who I go way back with. I've actually wanted to move to this city for a long time cuz I have visited and loved the times that I was there. I am still heartbroken but Im hoping that won't hold me back. why do I love someone still that treat me so badly, made me look like a fool constantly, and has my friends and family worried sick about me?? It just doesn't make any sense. Ive cut off all contact tho so thats a good start I suppose.... 2
Lennon Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I have financial of support of my family luckily till I get on my feet so that won't really be a problem. I would also be moving in with an old friend so I would have a roommate who I go way back with. I've actually wanted to move to this city for a long time cuz I have visited and loved the times that I was there. I am still heartbroken but Im hoping that won't hold me back. why do I love someone still that treat me so badly, made me look like a fool constantly, and has my friends and family worried sick about me?? It just doesn't make any sense. Ive cut off all contact tho so thats a good start I suppose.... it sounds like a good move to me man, i mean you have a mate so your not totally on your own, the day before i left to come here, i was sh*tting myself, i've never done something completely by myself before, always had a mate by my side. at least you'll have that familiarity, a good friend to live with and have the craic with. Plus the good thing about being somewhere new is that you have constant stimuli to keep your mind occupied, everything is new and all the people you meet are new. if you do go for it i wish you the best of luck 1
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