JustDreaming Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Hey everyone, Just would like to share my issue with you guys and hopefully obtain some insight into my situation as well. Here it goes, *We were VERY good friends before we decided to explore the feelings we had* Me and my ex-girlfriend have been officially not together for a month. Things started to go wrong when she was starting to act distant from me. She didn't think it was going to work anymore. After two days, she messages me telling me she has made a mistake and that she really does want to be with me she just isn't ready to date me yet. So we started talking again and everything was fine until she distanced herself from me again. Both times she became distant. The second time she became distant I decided that the best action was to just give her space. ..i didn't try to go out of my way to talk to her because I could see she was confused. We just talked to each other every other day…or every few days. During this time of on/off talking..she would tweet me indirectly on twitter, through song lyrics (because this is how she expresses herself), she also directly commented on one of my best friend's status' saying she would date him. I know she wouldn't at all and neither would he, but its like she did it so I could see it on purpose. 2 weeks into not contacting or initiating the contact, she messages me and calls me babe with a heart and asks if I want to watch a movie with her. (We didn't watch a movie or anything though). Out of nowhere that week (maybe a few days after the babe thing), she texts me good morning like she used to when we were dating. As you could imagine, I was confused as this came out of nowhere and I have not heard it for weeks. I continued to not read into it. About 5 days later I decide that it might be best if I just tell her I want to be friends. And yes, I rather just be friends because this is just too confusing for me and I can't go on like this. So I suggested friendship to her and she seemed fine with it. I told her that i missed our friendship. and she said "i miss you too" but never spoke of the friendship. I told her that I am happy. She said "good :)" I asked, "are you happy?" She said "I guess". I'm like what does that mean? And she told me she doesn't know what she feels. So I told her to think about it. I let it alone for a few days and asked if she had time to think about it, and she still acted like she was fine with friends. I asked her what I meant to her? She told me that she didn't feel like having the conversation because she was in a bad mood. So I asked if there was anything I could do to make her happy? She just said "no". The next day, I just really wanted to know what I meant to her, so I told her "do i mean anything to you, because if i don't i'll just let you be" She told me "you are important to me". I stopped contact after that for 1 week. She sends me a text "I'm thinking about you hope you're doing fine" I said "I'm good hope you're good too" She goes "lol, i'm ok thanks though" Then the next day she messages me and calls me by my pet name that she used to call me when we were dating. I haven't heard her say this in about a month. Most of our conversations are like small talk lately but we don't seem to go past it. We are still doing this on/off talking..and I'm not sure how I'm supposed to get past it and become friends. Clearly she thinks about me, but what does it mean, do you think she still has feelings for me but won't show it because she doesn't want to act on them? Calling me by my pet name…..? It seems like its hard for her to be my friend. I'm not sure why? Well since I have suggested friends now she probably thinks there is no point in telling me. Thoughts? I have no idea why we can't just talk more….
Mondmellonw Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Seems to me like she is playing games with you, she doesn't knows what she wants (a relationship, or just to stay friends with u). You're already confused, but she is the one who should clear her mind. Stay NC. 1
kjackson1 Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I agree with Mond, she doesn't know what she wants. This is just making it harder on you. Go no contact and work on yourself. She needs to decide what she wants. 1
Author JustDreaming Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Thank you both. I am doing NC, until further notice. I appreciate it 1
flight E Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Wrong move. U should never and I mean never put yourself in a positn where u keep asking what a girl feels about you. That's girly, it's for her to ask what you feel abt her. Stay no contact. If she comes aroud concentrate on having fun and start dating other girls immediately. This is you best move if you want this girl
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