x.Arrow.x Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Okay so this is a long story and will be complicated to explain so please bear with me. I've been going out with this guy for only a couple of months and things have started to go weird. I mean, don't get me wrong, hes a lovely guy; sweet, funny, generous etc. But I'm just not happy anymore and things are getting too confusing for me. This is my first serious relationship and so i'm not used to having someone there that i have to think about other than myself (if that makes sense.) And recently he keeps saying things to me that make me feel awful like í feel like you don't appriciate me enough' ýou don't put in as much effort as i do.' This makes me feel horrible as i don't mean to do it! And how am i meant to appriciate him more?...bow down and praise him?? I've also heard that there's a girl that he 'got with' before we went out and even after i became his girlfriend they are still flirty and he goes round her house a lot. I don't want to assume that this is true but i have reliable sources and i think i believe it's true. I've talked to him about it but he denies everything. And recently i've become friends with a guy..and i am really attracted to him. He is also attracted to me. I feel terrible and guilty for feeling that way towards someone else, but i can't help my feellings! I would never never cheat on my boyfriend, but i'm confused as to what to do. So, have you got any advice?? Because i don't even know what to feel let alone what to do
newmoon Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 you sound very young. in my old and wise experience ... if you have any type of attraction/feeling for someone else, and if your bf has any type of ongoing relationship with another girl (even a close friendship) then you're not that devoted to each other and it's best to part ways because it'll never flourish into something more.
Sand Man Dan Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Sounds like ya just don't dig him. That's fine, just be clear. But if you DO still have the hots for your bf, if he turns you on and you as ire him, then work on expressing yourself to him so he doesn't think he's annoying you. But If my GF was going round another guys house and I found out, she'd be history. No discussion or conversation.
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Can you ask him for specifics? When I met my husband, one of things he didn't so was send cards & when he did all he did was write his name in them. It's stupid but it made me feel unloved. Actually it made me confused because they were clearly cards that he put time & effort into selecting. After this happened a few times I sat him down, showed him a card I had written to him. Then I pointed out that I wanted him to write Dear D0nnivain, and Love, D0nnivain's husband. Because my request was very specific, my husband gave me what I asked for. In your case, your BF may have unreasonable expectations. If he can't be more specific, there's not way for you to even try to give him what he claims to want.
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