SarahJames Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Have any of you considered that another OW on this site may be referring to the same MM you're referring to? After reading so many posts, I sometimes find myself contemplating about the similarities...and I think, "Was she with the same MM I was with?!". It seems bizarre, but I think it could happen. MM tend to be good at what they do. For all you know, he has/had multiple OW. If not that, have you ever considered that his W is posting on the "infidelity" board? ...These are all things that have crossed my mind!
scatterd Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I think anything is possible but with so many similar stories it would be hard to point out. I think chances are slim though. People try to keep their identity to a limit but I think even with telling every detail with out names It would be hard to say that my MM,OW,and such.
wannabdone Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I used to think of the same thing... not really with it being another OW, but more so with his W. To take it a step further, I would read the posts by BS, to see what was "really" going on in marriages of people who had found out their spouses had cheated. That was when the A still had total 100% control of my life. Now, I don't care what BS have to say, or if his W may or may not be on here. I've stepped out of the world of being consumed with his world, and more so consumed with my own world now. I know what we were, and what we had. And I know what we are and more importantly who I am, so I no longer get consumed by the others. 3
Got it Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Have any of you considered that another OW on this site may be referring to the same MM you're referring to? After reading so many posts, I sometimes find myself contemplating about the similarities...and I think, "Was she with the same MM I was with?!". It seems bizarre, but I think it could happen. MM tend to be good at what they do. For all you know, he has/had multiple OW. If not that, have you ever considered that his W is posting on the "infidelity" board? ...These are all things that have crossed my mind! To be honest, no, it never crossed my mind nor did anything ever ring . . . similar.
wanting more Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Yes. It's crossed my mind. Some things an OW says her MM did with her. But then a lot of things sound the same from many many OW on here. Goes back to that old saying "the MM handbook). Never really thought about a BS being his BS. But I don't think she'd ever get On a site like this anyway. She wanted no one to know about the A. Then (and up until her last email a few months back) blamed me 100% for the A. I'd have to imagine if she told the story from her eyes (or the way she did to me and my BSO) that even other BSs would tell her what a POS her husband is and a liar.
MissBee Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Have any of you considered that another OW on this site may be referring to the same MM you're referring to? After reading so many posts, I sometimes find myself contemplating about the similarities...and I think, "Was she with the same MM I was with?!". It seems bizarre, but I think it could happen. MM tend to be good at what they do. For all you know, he has/had multiple OW. If not that, have you ever considered that his W is posting on the "infidelity" board? ...These are all things that have crossed my mind! It's not impossible. But the similarities are just similarities and not really a sign that it is the same person. However, it can be so similar sometimes that it seems uncanny but even so I don't think it would be super common for it to be the same MM, although not impossible at all. Haven't heard any stories of two (or more) OW on LS finding out they are with the same MM but there was once a debacle apparently over a BS figuring out that an OW here was her husband's OW.
happy stillmore Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I never imagined that another MM discussed on this forum could be my MM. My MM was such a horrible liar that I can't imagine him two-timing me (or rather three-timing me and his wife). I do, however, find it striking the similarities I see in the MM. I find they exhibit conflict-avoidant personalities. They are unhappy but do not have the courage to leave their situations and be painfully honest with their SO. It is easier to find "happiness" secretly with another than it is to face things head on. In my mind, I am realizing this is a man who has not emotionally matured to that of a grown man. They are still children sneaking candy out of the candy jar instead of working hard to earn it honestly. I hope that made some sense. 1
EverySunset Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 It's not impossible. Haven't heard any stories of two (or more) OW on LS finding out they are with the same MM but there was once a debacle apparently over a BS figuring out that an OW here was her husband's OW. MM? No way. My lyin, cheatin, dirty rotten scoundrel of a WS (ahem) I mean STBXH? Most likely! LoL
missannoyed Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Yep, crossed my mind a few times. I've been reading posts here for a while (rarely comment) but I swear I've seen atleast 3 stories that sounded eerily similar to mine, almost detail for detail.... Also makes me think..... When I'm in public or at work I sometimes wonder to myself who else could possibly secretly be having an A - always try to pin point other OW or MM's but some are just too good at covering their tracks......others you notice are just obvious as hell, giving away so many signals to each other without even realising it's obvious. But I wonder, if I might know another OW without realising it. mind blown.
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