MsLadyLuck Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Hey guys. So im really lost in my relationship right now. Me and my SO have been dating for 4 years. It was magic, almost perfection. He chased me all the time. Our love was one of a kind and we both knew that we would be marrying each other in the future. However these past few months, when he finally got a job, his temperament changed. Sometimes he is very loving and caring and next thing i know hes aloof and distant. He is the love of my life. He shows me how serious he is in the relationship and comes to see me when he finishes his work, btw hes a workaholic. But eversince hes been getting money, all he thinks bout is his self. His feelings and priorities. I dont know where to place myself anymore even though i know hes still there for me. I just cant feel my worth. He just wants me to be supportive. But what about my emotional needs? He told me im the one he wants to marry and there will be a time for that. When we argue about stupid things he would just stay quiet and ignore me. Im not working so i dont know what it feels like to be stressed in work. But this emotional stress has been killing me. Any advice?
Sand Man Dan Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 You must always be prepared to walk from something that doesn't make you happy...if he isn't willing to put in effort anymore then you know where you stand with him I'm not discounting the possibility that he is indeed just stressed etc but also take into account alllll the new people he might have met at his job. I hope things work out. I really do. Ask him for a clear discussion of what he wants.
StanMusial Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Hey guys. So im really lost in my relationship right now. Me and my SO have been dating for 4 years. It was magic, almost perfection. He chased me all the time. Our love was one of a kind and we both knew that we would be marrying each other in the future. However these past few months, when he finally got a job, his temperament changed. Sometimes he is very loving and caring and next thing i know hes aloof and distant. He is the love of my life. He shows me how serious he is in the relationship and comes to see me when he finishes his work, btw hes a workaholic. But eversince hes been getting money, all he thinks bout is his self. His feelings and priorities. I dont know where to place myself anymore even though i know hes still there for me. I just cant feel my worth. He just wants me to be supportive. But what about my emotional needs? He told me im the one he wants to marry and there will be a time for that. When we argue about stupid things he would just stay quiet and ignore me. Im not working so i dont know what it feels like to be stressed in work. But this emotional stress has been killing me. Any advice? So you're not working... what exactly do you do with your time? I've been there, it is a huge strain when one person has a lot of free time and the other one does not. But you're comparing a few months against 4 years? I think you need to be a little patient. Building a future together is not all sunshine and roses. It's hard work and sacrifices. 1
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