Windy Sage Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 We have been broken up for 3 mos with little communication.We started communicating about 2 weeks ago and have talked but not of the relationship.My councillor suggested I lay out the the idea of reconciliation so i did.We met for drinks and i explained how bad I acted and thru conc. was working on my short comings.I told her,and we both agreed that the relationship needed to go back to it began..doing things,respecting what she wanted and needed and she seemed to agree.I told i did not want an answer,and that she would think about my offer,no pressure,I.She knew what i wanted and i could go either way,but her direction was prefered.My concern is I may have been too much too soon...she cried slightly and had a few questions but admitted she was caught off guard.But that my presenation was "beautiful"!! We parted happy and smiling ang had 2 samll kisses and the longest tightest hug in a LONG time.I told her I would call her next week to see how she's doing... It all seems positive buy the way...but did i go too far too fast??
chelsea2011 Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 N. It doesn't sound like you did. You layed everything out, showed her you have options and you weren't pushy at all. The ball is in her court now. Wait and see how she responds and take it from there. Good luck. I hope it works out the best for both of you.
Author Windy Sage Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 i told her i would follow up next week...too soon?
eachcomingnight Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Windy, I don't know if you setting a date to call back and check up on her is the best idea - she may feel pressure to have her feelings sorted out by then, which can make it hard for her to figure out exactly what she feels. If I were you, I'd get in touch with her and say that you really enjoyed catching up with her but you realize she may need some time to think about reconciliation, and for her to contact you if and when she feels ready. (Without anything sappy like "I'll be waiting for you!") You can mention that you're going to continue working on yourself/the issues that caused you to break up in the first place. Then back off until she contacts you. If she was the dumper, she really has to be the one to make the move back toward you -- if she feels (even imagines) any pressure from you, she will likely run the other way. That being said, you really should take this time to continue working on yourself, so that you don't end up following the same pattern again if you manage to reconcile. Good luck!
Author Windy Sage Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 that was the plan to say those things, she had asked about my councillor and what my family would think,and i thought that was odd.So i felt maybe i should seek an answer sooner,since I am working on me,and figured she may well be interested,,
goldfighter3 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Don't pressure her, take things slowly. Perhaps before you start thinking about a relationship, you need to try casual, no pressure dating to see if its what you both really want. Jumping straight back into the relationship may risk going back to the old patterns that caused the breakup. You could try reading 'dating your ex' ebook. 1
Author Windy Sage Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 Got the book will read it fast,lol What bugged me during the conversation..she never did reply or say anything in the way of how she felt(eg;sorry) or anything like that..maybe she doesn't care or is already too far gaone? thoughts?
d0cholliday Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Got the book will read it fast,lol What bugged me during the conversation..she never did reply or say anything in the way of how she felt(eg;sorry) or anything like that..maybe she doesn't care or is already too far gaone? thoughts? Can you send me that book? dropbox or mail: cro(dot)doc(dot)holliday(at)gmail(dot)com
Mr. Nibbles Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Do you type like this when you write your gf?
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