aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Last night I had to work at my job from 2-11 pm. My girlfriend,bless her heart, came in and surprised me and said Hi. When she left she said she was goig home I told her to text me later. At one am I recieved a text from her that simply said "home". Excuse me? what do you mean home? I replied back "what?" and then didn't get a reply. I called her and asked why did she text me "home" She said "well you said to text you so i did", I said "well why home?" She replied"well I was just telling yo I'm home and can talk, I guess I should have put Hey, Im sorry" Yeah I let my paranoia get the best of me and I came across as agressive I just was a bit confused on why she wold text me that and was thinking maybe she didnt mean it for me obviously she did though why do i do this to myself?
bubbaganoosh Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Has she ever given you any reason not to trust her? If the answer is yes, then you have a reason. If no, I wouldn't worry about it.
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Even if she was out until 1:00 a.m. that's no evidence that she was doing anything inappropriate. Be happy that she stopped by to see you, cared enough to do what you asked and is safe. 1
Sand Man Dan Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Last night I had to work at my job from 2-11 pm. My girlfriend,bless her heart, came in and surprised me and said Hi. When she left she said she was goig home I told her to text me later. At one am I recieved a text from her that simply said "home". Excuse me? what do you mean home? I replied back "what?" and then didn't get a reply. I called her and asked why did she text me "home" She said "well you said to text you so i did", I said "well why home?" Uh Are ya kiddin me
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 Uh Are ya kiddin me here;s the thing. whenever we hangout when one of us gets home, we always text the other letting them know we got home safe so when she texted me that i was wondering why she would text me that.i was at work, i didn't know where she was or what she was doing
MidwestUSA Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 She was at HOME. You asked her to text you later. She texted HOME because she had gotten HOME. What do you mean you don't know where she was? 1
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 She was at HOME. You asked her to text you later. She texted HOME because she had gotten HOME. What do you mean you don't know where she was? i was at work. when she left my work she said she was going home, but that was at 930 so she could have gone out
organizedchaos Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 i was at work. when she left my work she said she was going home, but that was at 930 so she could have gone out Ah, so the question is she left at 9:30 and texted you at 1 saying she was home. What happened in between? Why didn't you ask how the rest of her night went?
MidwestUSA Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 i was at work. when she left my work she said she was going home, but that was at 930 so she could have gone out So maybe she did. Is she not allowed to go out while you're at work? If you're this conflicted, perhaps you should break up with her. I'll go back to YOUR original question 'Why do I do this to myself?'.
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Even if she went out after seeing you & was in fact arriving home at 1:30 when she texted you the word HOME I still don't see why it's a problem. Have you asked her where she was & what she was doing between the time she left your work & sent you the text? She could have been all sorts of places, none of which would have an adverse impact on your relationship. What about her behavior is making you assume that she must have been cheating?
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 Ah, so the question is she left at 9:30 and texted you at 1 saying she was home. What happened in between? Why didn't you ask how the rest of her night went? i did..she said she just went home and watched some movies. i dont care if she did go out, i just found it weird that she texted me "home" when thats what we do when one of us gets home from when we hang out togeter
mammasita Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I don't understand what's so special about "home". Is it that you felt like that was your thing?
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 i did..she said she just went home and watched some movies. i dont care if she did go out, i just found it weird that she texted me "home" when thats what we do when one of us gets home from when we hang out togeter She associates that word with you. Isn't that a good thing?
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 I don't understand what's so special about "home". Is it that you felt like that was your thing? it is our thing..whenwe hang out, when we go home, we will text "home" to let the other know we are ok
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 I'm a idiot. That's all there is to it. Thankfully she has talked to me today
Sand Man Dan Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I'm a idiot. That's all there is to it. Thankfully she has talked to me today I agree. Don't spaz on your GF cause its a huge turn off.
organizedchaos Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 it is our thing..whenwe hang out, when we go home, we will text "home" to let the other know we are ok I still dont get the issue. However if you get this bent out of shape over nothing, inhale a feeling this is going to get worse and will cause problems down the line if you don't stop over analyzing things.
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 you sound like a psycho. I didn't yell at her
MidwestUSA Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I just need help Help with what? Paranoia? Insecurity? Jealousy?
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 Help with what? Paranoia? Insecurity? Jealousy? Insecurity. My last ex left me for our friend
MidwestUSA Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Insecurity. My last ex left me for our friend Ah, I get you. The key is to know that all people are not the same. Will your current gf do the same? It's always possible, in which case you've hit a string of really bad luck. You can't live wondering 'what if?'. Do you trust your gf? Has she done anything at all to not deserve your complete trust?
Author aarontom Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 Ah, I get you. The key is to know that all people are not the same. Will your current gf do the same? It's always possible, in which case you've hit a string of really bad luck. You can't live wondering 'what if?'. Do you trust your gf? Has she done anything at all to not deserve your complete trust? no trust her its just when she texted me "home" i was like um is this for me or??
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