Lona.loba Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 My LDBF and I have been together for 7 months since July . We both love each other a lot and are planning to get married when we are older and I go to his country and live there ... He is two years older than me . We usually communicate twice a week sometimes once when I h&m at school but on my holidays and vacations we communicate almost everyday ... Last week he traveled to Thailand for sport training there .. Before he traveled we always had problems with time zones ... And we still do have problems with time after he traveled. We communicated the first two days he got there, he has wifi in the hotel ... It's been a week since he went and we didn't coummunicate since I try to text him on kik and check if he is online on Skype but he's never on and he doesn't open my texts on kik ... Is he ignoring me or just busy ? He is staying in Thailand for 3 weeks
Fufu Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 My LDBF and I have been together for 7 months since July . We both love each other a lot and are planning to get married when we are older and I go to his country and live there ... He is two years older than me . We usually communicate twice a week sometimes once when I h&m at school but on my holidays and vacations we communicate almost everyday ... Last week he traveled to Thailand for sport training there .. Before he traveled we always had problems with time zones ... And we still do have problems with time after he traveled. We communicated the first two days he got there, he has wifi in the hotel ... It's been a week since he went and we didn't coummunicate since I try to text him on kik and check if he is online on Skype but he's never on and he doesn't open my texts on kik ... Is he ignoring me or just busy ? He is staying in Thailand for 3 weeks Don't jump into any conclusions first. Do not over-think. Let him contact you first since he seems to be offline.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 He could be busy, but it doesn't take a huge time commitment to get in quick contact with one's girlfriend. I always maintain that a man or woman who is genuinely interested in a relationship will find a way to connect with their partners, even if just to say a brief hello. How old are you both, and have you ever met in person? You're making awfully big, life-changing plans (marriage, moving abroad) for someone you've only been in a relationship with for 7 months. Have you researched visa and residency requirements in his country? The paperwork and legal documentation required for marrying in another country? Would you have to learn a new language? Those are the concerns I'd have first and foremost, considering that this relationship is still relatively young. 3
justwhoiam Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 We usually communicate twice a week Twice a week as a normal frequency is a bit below average to me, for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship nowadays. Last week he traveled to Thailand for sport training there .. Where from? And what kind of training? He is staying in Thailand for 3 weeks I guess he's having fun............ but maybe if you answer my two questions above, I get a better idea.
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 Twice a week as a normal frequency is a bit below average to me, for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship nowadays. Where from? And what kind of training? I guess he's having fun............ but maybe if you answer my two questions above, I get a better idea. Ok he is in Thailand for mixed martial arts training ...we only chat twice a week cuz we are both busy with school and the time zones are hard when I'm awake he's asleep when I'm asleep he's awake obviously he prefers me on sleep so he used t wake up on 1 and 2 am so we can chat and Skype ..he's from New Zealand
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 He could be busy, but it doesn't take a huge time commitment to get in quick contact with one's girlfriend. I always maintain that a man or woman who is genuinely interested in a relationship will find a way to connect with their partners, even if just to say a brief hello. How old are you both, and have you ever met in person? You're making awfully big, life-changing plans (marriage, moving abroad) for someone you've only been in a relationship with for 7 months. Have you researched visa and residency requirements in his country? The paperwork and legal documentation required for marrying in another country? Would you have to learn a new language? Those are the concerns I'd have first and foremost, considering that this relationship is still relatively young. I'm 17 he's 19 .. Yes we met in person only once but for little time...I'm actually planning to go there to study in University / collage there anyways cuz where I love collages are not really good.. Yes I did research all these stuff .. We didn't really plan on marrying each other but he just said it and I was happy about it and he said he will marry me when I'm in my mid twenties ... But marriage is gonna bring us problems cuz of religion difference .. But we are both not really religious and don't mind it cuz we love each other a lot ... I'm not gonna learn a new language cuz the language there is English and I already speak two extra languages
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 Don't jump into any conclusions first. Do not over-think. Let him contact you first since he seems to be offline. Ok I'll wait a while for him to return and text me first he's probably busy now or doesn't have good wifi but I'm impatient
justwhoiam Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Do you know how he arranged his stay? Is he staying in a hotel on his own or with other guys for the same training? I would find it odd, if he were the only one training there on his own. Do you know what school he's going to? If you don't hear from him for a whole week, I guess you can contact the school and check if he's been attending the training... Or you can call the hotel and ask to talk to him, but if he's not there, I guess they wouldn't give out much information, if any at all.
Author Lona.loba Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 He is in a hotel and yes there are other guys training there with him but I don't know which hotel anyways he texted me today saying "hi babe , sorry I was busy with training" then he went ... That's the only thing he texted
ExpatInItaly Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 He is in a hotel and yes there are other guys training there with him but I don't know which hotel anyways he texted me today saying "hi babe , sorry I was busy with training" then he went ... That's the only thing he texted I think you're just not a priority for him right now. Keep yourself busy and do not pin your future plans on him. Get out and have fun with your friends; enjoy being a teenager and don't even begin to worry about religious differences, marriage or moving abroad at this time. You have plenty of time and lots of people to meet and tons of experiences to have before you should even consider settling down, particularly for someone who doesn't seem very committed. 1
Els Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I'm 17 he's 19 .. Yes we met in person only once but for little time...I'm actually planning to go there to study in University / collage there anyways cuz where I love collages are not really good.. Yes I did research all these stuff .. If you two have truly researched immigration laws in NZ, you (and especially he) would know that marriage is completely irrelevant as far as allowing you to live there. NZ partner visas are purely based on living together, not marital status. That being said, you are 17! There is a whole world out there for you. Now is not the time to be thinking about marriage and making big moves for a guy. Ask yourself, honest to god: If you two broke up would you still want to study there? If the answer is yes, then by all means go anyway. If it is no, then don't. As for the ignoring bit, I would advise cutting him a bit of slack if he is travelling and only going to be there for a few weeks.
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