george roy Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Getting a divorce. STBXW has another relationship. Still living in the same house at the moment. STBXW left yesterday around noon. Haven't heard from her since. The kids are asking where Mommy is. And she hasn't answered a couple of texts I've sent this morning. The last text, I asked her to just let me know that she's ok. Nothing back yet. Were the situation reversed, at a minimum I would text and say, "I'll be home in the morning", or something along those lines. At a certain point, the anger turns to genuine concern. Regardless of the current situation... Is it out of line to expect a phone call or text (from her) to at least say she won't be home that night ? Input and suggestions are appreciated.
aliveagain Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 (edited) Keep a record of every event, even in a no fault state it may help you in the process, copy your lawyer. The sooner you get her gone the better, she left the marriage and is just an anchor holding your ship from sailing on. Is her new man prepared to co parent your young children, does he know what he is getting himself into I wonder. Edited January 12, 2014 by aliveagain
Steen719 Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Getting a divorce. STBXW has another relationship. Still living in the same house at the moment. STBXW left yesterday around noon. Haven't heard from her since. The kids are asking where Mommy is. And she hasn't answered a couple of texts I've sent this morning. The last text, I asked her to just let me know that she's ok. Nothing back yet. Were the situation reversed, at a minimum I would text and say, "I'll be home in the morning", or something along those lines. At a certain point, the anger turns to genuine concern. Regardless of the current situation... Is it out of line to expect a phone call or text (from her) to at least say she won't be home that night ? Input and suggestions are appreciated. Not only is it NOT out of line, it is extremely selfish of her not to consider her children's feelings. Common courtesy and decency dictates that she should at least tell you that she is not coming home. Selfish, selfish, selfish!
Tiberius Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Well there is always the possibility that she is in a sour situation and not okay. If you know where she might have gone get her family to check up on her.
mammasita Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Not only is it NOT out of line, it is extremely selfish of her not to consider her children's feelings. Common courtesy and decency dictates that she should at least tell you that she is not coming home. Selfish, selfish, selfish! Divorce, separation.......regardless.....when kids are involved common courtesy is a must. You are not out of line to expect that at all.
strive Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Yup definitely common courtesy. But as we all know, with all things related to exes, we will just get disappointed. Sigh.
lollipopspot Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 If this is out of character, best try to track her down and figure out what's happening. I know someone who was stood up for their appointment by a professional. They were really upset and sent lots of messages. The professional had died that morning. When something is out of character, then it's best to investigate. If it's in character or it happens again, then you know not to be too concerned.
RightThere Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Not only is it NOT out of line, it is extremely selfish of her not to consider her children's feelings. Common courtesy and decency dictates that she should at least tell you that she is not coming home. Selfish, selfish, selfish! Totally agree with this. My STBXW did similar things while we were still under the same roof during separation. I finally had to lay it out with her that I don't care what she does, but if she's not going to be home past a certain time, she needs to let me know. Separating and being under the same roof is tough. The sooner you can either get out or get her out, the better.
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