RandyS Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 I was dumped about four months ago by my gf of two years. I didn't realize a lot of my mistakes until too late and that made me feel even worse. I spent a lot of nights crying and praying. I did realize my mistakes though and I know now that even though I felt like a big **** at first I do have a good heart and I'll never make those mistakes again. Sometimes you have to learn the hard way. Anyway, now I have met somebody else and even though I am taking it slow I can tell if it gets really serious she and I are much better suited for each other than me and my ex. It's only been four months and if you have already passed that mark don't despair, my ex made it really easy for me to get over her. Just try to realize that it wasn't all your fault but DO take responsibility for what was. God does work in mysterious ways. Good Luck!
xxsilverdragonxx Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 I don't think the praying thing has helped me much for my situation. I understand what you mean when you say you see now that your ex wasn't quite the right fit. I too saw my mistakes way too late. I wish I could just come clean with my ex and appologize for being and idiot sometimes, but doing that gives her all the power, and I'm not the only one to blame, she was an idiot too. I thought at the beginning of our relationship it was a gift from the heavens. Now I think it was a big joke. I did learn a lot, but I'm still feeling empty inside. Thanks god. I appreciate your sympathy.
Isabella82 Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 xxsilverdragonxx I too don't think praying to God helped me much either. My mom tells me that all the time, to just pray to God. I told her I used to pray to God and he brought me to my ex. I used to thank God everyday that I found someone so great and someone that we had so much in common with. Now God took that away from me, left me with nothing. I seriously was 100% sure that this was it, he was my soulmate, I just thought that it was my destiny and it was meant to be blah blah blah.... I don't believe in that stuff anymore. I am glad someone else agrees
iceisles Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 I am not deeply religious, but I believe that there are bigger things out there influencing us. We may call the shots, but I feel God, a guardian angel, etc., helps us down the road. Keep it in mind, too, that just because a prayer wasn't answered doesn't mean it was never received. Just like the Garth Brooks songs goes, sometimes you have to give thanks for unanswered prayers.
xxsilverdragonxx Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 Originally posted by Isabella82 xxsilverdragonxx I too don't think praying to God helped me much either. My mom tells me that all the time, to just pray to God. I told her I used to pray to God and he brought me to my ex. I used to thank God everyday that I found someone so great and someone that we had so much in common with. Now God took that away from me, left me with nothing. I seriously was 100% sure that this was it, he was my soulmate, I just thought that it was my destiny and it was meant to be blah blah blah.... I don't believe in that stuff anymore. I am glad someone else agrees In my journal, I wrote so much about how I had finally had my prayers answered, and that this was the right way for me to go. I was happy that it seemed like for once I had recieved a gift from above, and I was so thankful. I feel so stupid for writing those feelings down. 'Cause now I look like an idiot, praising something that didn't last. I too thought my "ex" was my destiny, and that God himself had brought us together for that reason. I was also one hundred and twenty percent sure she was the one. I was also 120% wrong.
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