winny Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Hello Perhaps because you are a beautiful woman with model appearance men are intimidated by you. You sound as if you have both the looks and the brains, which may intimidate them and make them feel like you are out of their league, also I imagine they probably already think you have a bf. I mean it is probably a strange assumption to make but I would if I see a female with model-looks. Also men go for the 'slutty' girls because they are outgoing and easy to get. My ex went for one. She posted a bikini pic of herself online. Her posing in her bikini! Not like she was taking photos of the scenery, to get 'likes' from guys. I'm thinking, he thinks this is confidence (he said he was sick of women with low self-esteem and depressed women etc.) but really it's the opposite of confidence to have to feel you need to post tons of pictures of yourself in selfies and practically naked to have others say you're beautiful. I also think she is a narcissist tags her photos with 'cute' 'pretty' etc. That is so true!!! A confident woman doesn't need to prove it... it shows in her walk, her smile, her intelligence, the warmth she exudes towards everyone... No skin show required! Also, I feel only immature boys would get intimidated by a successful and beautiful woman... A man will value her and treasure her... But I don't know what kind of vibe OP gives when she meets eligible guys... If she can give us an example of her experience with one of the men... then we might be able to help more....
Revolver Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Most women who make this statement are trying to get wifed by guys who are way out of their league 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 There's no such thing as "good men". Only variations of bad...
soccerrprp Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 There's no such thing as "good men". Only variations of bad... How cynical and BS. So, based on this reasoning you believe that there are NO SUCH THINGS AS GOOD PEOPLE. This is a generalization that stinks of cynicism and hopelessness...pitiful observation. No one is perfect, but I know quite a few good men who are faithful, kind, responsible, etc. You clearly haven't met any...
StanMusial Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Most women who make this statement are trying to get wifed by guys who are way out of their league Or they want the ever elusive "good guy with an edge". 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 How cynical and BS. So, based on this reasoning you believe that there are NO SUCH THINGS AS GOOD PEOPLE. This is a generalization that stinks of cynicism and hopelessness...pitiful observation. No one is perfect, but I know quite a few good men who are faithful, kind, responsible, etc. You clearly haven't met any... I'm sure those traits are admirable and they may have them. However, I'm sure they also have negative traits that make them "bad". So, in essence, there are variations of "bad".
Frank2thepoint Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 So, I lose track of these things. What man is going to come in here and say "you're probably friendzoning the good men." Is it my turn or does somebody else have it covered? I've got this one. OP, you're probably friendzoning the good men and chasing after the bad ones. It has been said, and now it is written in stone (actually LS database, subject to the admin's mercy). Go forth and multiply.
SJC2008 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 There are plenty of men with bitches/control freaks, probably as many as women with "jerks". The former dynamic is hardly ever discussed though and is usually overshadowed by the latter. Be the person you want to attract. Though I do belive it's hard to find genuine people as cynnical as it sounds.
mortensorchid Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I know exactly what you're talking about LLL. I have said the same thing many times. Despite what others may or may not say about friendzoning or geography or whatnot, it comes down to a few facts here: 1) Delicate balance - It is a very delicate balance between people, be it personal or work related, it's HARD to have a good relationship with others. You can try harder or you can try lesser, or you can bend or you can refuse or something else. And if it's not right, then it has to give. 2) Trash - When it comes down to the choices men make, as in asking who they will stay with long term, they will choose trashy girls. The reason is because trashy girls are far more exciting like Bad Boys are to women. Bad Girls take the form of strippers, drunk chicks, drama queens, slutty girls, and, in general, users (who are not edgy in appearance but are in attitude). They want someone who is less educated, has a weaker personality, and just sits there and does what they are told. Don't believe me? I've seen it happen more times than I care to think about. 3) Fear - I have determined that guys are far more insecure than I was lead to believe as a kid. Boys are allowed to do more things and are projected to be so brave when women are the weaker ones (think knights and princesses in the fairy tales). Know what? Something happened where the roles reversed. Women are now the bravest and tougher, men are weaker. And men really don't show how weak they truly are until the moment allows. Then they go back to the bottom feeder/ trash because they feel superior to the trash and the trash is more exciting. It's a sad fact of life, truly. But this is the world we live in.
Woggle Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I will never understand men who put up with women who mistreat them but sometimes men like slightly trashy women because they let us be who we are. They don't try to smooth out our rough edges or refine us and they aren't dying to be a part of high status society. We can have freedom with them.
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