perspective needed

[deathandtaxes]

Met this lady via OLD. We had six dates. Plans for a seventh. She had said she wanted to take things slow. So we never had been in each other's places and had only kissed a bunch. The day after our sixth date, after we already make plans for a seventh, she e-mails to say that she's just not feeling the spark. She did say that I was charming, unique, and adorable. The next date was going to be at my place - dinner, beer, and a movie or a game or something. I'm 35 and she's 36, btw.

 

 

I'm not broken up by this by any means. Six dates does not a relationship make. I am just trying to gain some insight into why she decided it took so long and if anybody else has had some similar experiences. I just feel like I could have used my time better if she had been waffling every time we had went out.

[d0nnivain]

She may have felt that the venue for the 7th date: your place was a possibility that sex was going to be involved & she couldn't handle that so she panicked and ran.

[truth_seeker]

She may have felt that the venue for the 7th date: your place was a possibility that sex was going to be involved & she couldn't handle that so she panicked and ran.

 

I agree with this.

 

Other possibilities:

- She's seeing another guy and decided to go with him

- She felt there was no future so she bailed (6 dates and nothing close to sex? I would expect it to be sooner if there were a strong connection).

[deathandtaxes]

She may have felt that the venue for the 7th date: your place was a possibility that sex was going to be involved & she couldn't handle that so she panicked and ran.

 

 

 

That did cross my mind. If she's going to panic, then she's not for me. Six dates and she doesn't even want to come over? I just wanted it to be very casual. Food and conversation that's not taking place in a restaurant or similar locale. Ah well.