goldfighter3 Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 My ex completely betrayed my trust by leaving me for her acrobatics partner and running away to the circus (get the laughing out of the way now please!). I'm trying to stay positive, to tell myself that I was a good boyfriend, to try and remember all the good things I did for her, but sometimes I just feel so ****, and all I can remember are the times I got angry, where I didn't talk to her about things that annoyed me, where I broke down from stress in front of her. Its so hard, and I feel like I can't keep that positive outlook up. Does anyone have tips to staying positive?
deathandtaxes Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I am laughing a little bit inside. Just a little bit. Not at you, though. You have to practice being positive. You have to recognize your feelings as they arise, the good and the bad. Recognize all of them. Give them names. This is an angry thought. This is a happy thought. Be angry. Be happy. But don't let it consume you. If you don't like how you feel when anger rears it's head, change it. Think about something else. Do something else.
Sasukie Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Same boat as you. I saw your thread previously. It's tough, how long has it been since you broke again? One thing I realized is this - if you choose to remember and think about your relationship and you're the type to rethink things over and over, you'll start going in circles. Give yourself to think about it for a second when you start doing that and look outside the box. Yes you're tired, you're so bothered by your most recent loss. Who gives man, its one girl who decided that she doesn't want you. Feel good that you didn't waste anymore time. You don't have to be positive at all, in the first while it'll feel like utter ****. Mope around until you come to the realization that being sad doesn't move you forward. Go watch some tv and do some shopping with a buddy. You just need to walk around more and see some sights. Everyone has made mistakes, but your life is too short to be used on being sad and depressed on one girl.
Author goldfighter3 Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 Thanks man. Its been two and a half months since she left. Had gotten myself into a good frame of mind until she rang me on the 1/1 to tell me she was dating her acrobatic partner. Think they'd been dating for long before then, but either way that was when everything that didn't make sense about the breakup clicked into place. After that it was like I went through the whole breakup all over again... Same boat as you. I saw your thread previously. It's tough, how long has it been since you broke again? One thing I realized is this - if you choose to remember and think about your relationship and you're the type to rethink things over and over, you'll start going in circles. Give yourself to think about it for a second when you start doing that and look outside the box. Yes you're tired, you're so bothered by your most recent loss. Who gives man, its one girl who decided that she doesn't want you. Feel good that you didn't waste anymore time. You don't have to be positive at all, in the first while it'll feel like utter ****. Mope around until you come to the realization that being sad doesn't move you forward. Go watch some tv and do some shopping with a buddy. You just need to walk around more and see some sights. Everyone has made mistakes, but your life is too short to be used on being sad and depressed on one girl.
Fufu Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 My ex completely betrayed my trust by leaving me for her acrobatics partner and running away to the circus (get the laughing out of the way now please!). I'm trying to stay positive, to tell myself that I was a good boyfriend, to try and remember all the good things I did for her, but sometimes I just feel so ****, and all I can remember are the times I got angry, where I didn't talk to her about things that annoyed me, where I broke down from stress in front of her. Its so hard, and I feel like I can't keep that positive outlook up. Does anyone have tips to staying positive? You stay positive by telling yourself how glad you are outta this relationship. So good being yourself again!
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