keeptryingormoveon Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 (edited) I've been reading the forums, and it seems like the 2/3 months seems the hardest for some people. It seems that's the mark where reality sets in that the ex is really gone for good. Below is how I'm feeling right now and I'm scare from reading the other posts that it will worsen before it gets better. Here's how I feel right now: It's been almost 1 month no contact for me and a little over a month since the second breakup. I've been trying my best to move on and actually doing pretty good. I have groups of close friends that supports me but I don't really mention the breakup anymore (I'm sure they tired of hearing it after the second week.) I go out just about every weekend to chill and have fun. I've been more focus on my career(finance field in nyc if anybody wants to help me out ). Been working out to look/feel better and hopefully it betters my basketball skills before the summer starts. We do work in the same workplace, but I recently changed shift from weekends to regular day shift. Now I only see her on Mondays instead of 3 days in the week. I don't make any eye contact and I don't ever say a word to her (only when she comes over to ask work related question). I still think about her everyday. I don't get sad or depressed. I lost the need or feel to contact her at all. I don't have any social media accounts so that makes it easier for me. I mostly just wish things turned out differently. I'm still trying to forgive myself. I still hope (which is bad) that she will contact me later down the line to give it another chance. I know for another chance to work, I need to fully move on and let go of the past. For another chance to work, it needs to start fresh and new. Overall it was my first relationship and it was a learning experience. Just wish I had some more experience before going into the relationship. Wish she was my last instead of my first. I known her for over 7 years before the relationship and we were really close friends. I do believe she was the right person for me but if its meant to be, it will be. Life goes on. Edited January 12, 2014 by keeptryingormoveon
Sasukie Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Generally the first month or two are the worst. I think we all have regrets and "if only we/I had...."s Nonetheless, you're making good progress. Let it go, whether you want to reconcile or not. I'm in the finance field as well (Canada) and I just went through my "first love" relationship. Honestly, it'll be easier to move on and learn from your mistakes for the next one, than to fix a broken vase. If you guys are meant to be, you will. Anything can happen, but just leave it at that. Focus on yourself and not on the both of you.
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