brokeNlost Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Bro, she using you. Your story sound similar to me. I recommend you read my posthttp://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/452209-bs-her-bf-text-me My ex pretty much did the same to me. Read my post and learn from me
Zahara Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 In a fairness, what is ignoring her going to do, she might want me back but doesn't want to admit it yet? Well, when she finally wants to admit it, she will come to you. For now, you let her go because she IS STILL choosing to be with another man, not you. You only enable her to have two men at her disposal to entertain her needs. You to cry to when she has a bad day, and the bf when she wants to have sex and romp around naked with, eat with, sleep with, go to the movies with, cuddle on the couch with, etc. Grow a backbone, please. It's much more attractive in a man. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 In a fairness, what is ignoring her going to do, she might want me back but doesn't want to admit it yet? If she doesn't want to admit it, then she doesn't really want it. I mean, you can't afford to be this obtuse. 1
lauri Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 (edited) Arg...where do I start on this one? First off, she sounds like a girl who isn't even worth your time. No offense, but any girl who does this when she has a boyfriend absolutely loses my respect and would be block and deleted immediately. I can already picture what she was doing when she was losing interest in you before the breakup. She can't have the best of both worlds - she now has to live with her decision to leave you and that is it. You think she wants you back? A girl who is interested in you can't play games and makes it VERY easy for you to get with her...she shes interested she helps you out almost. There is no confusion, no games and no run around. Flat out when a girl likes you she won't make your life hard - its contradictory and doesn't make sense. Why would any sane person want to make life hard for someone they want to be with? Hate to say it dude, but she is probably looking to relieve her guilt and not feel as bad about hurting you. Maybe she wants you as a back up because things aren't going as planned with her new boyfriend. Either way I don't care what her reasoning is and either should you. Even if she was to say "I want you back, I'm in love with you", you have to ensure that you do not rush back into things and make her realize you are a MAN who cannot be MESSED with or broken up with. Breaking up with someone is not a joke and not something she can just "change" her mind on after she realized her new boyfriend isn't all what she thought he would be. Don't be available for her and don't listen to her problems - its not your responsibility. She has to work for your time and earn your time from now on. I know it may sound odd but by being around she is losing more interest in you then you can imagine - and she will eventually be so turned off (this normally happens when she doesn't feel guilty anymore) and will cut you off for good and live her life happily ever after thinking she can have you any moment she wants - even if shes with another guy. Do you want to be that guy? Edited January 21, 2014 by lauri 2
pickflicker Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 In a fairness, what is ignoring her going to do, she might want me back but doesn't want to admit it yet? Ignoring her means that you call the shots, not her. You're just her little puppet.
TXGuy Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 Also keep in mind, if you do take her back, she will be calling (and ??) her other boy toys when she is not getting exactly what she wants from you. You are getting a glimpse of her character you had not seen before. That should make it so much easier to let her go.
rosedl Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 She isn't trust worthy. Things are going bad in her new relationship, so she wants to return to the one she left for comfort. She probably wants to make sure you are an option before she leaves this new guy. She probably can't deal with being alone and breaking up with her boyfriend without a safety net. You become the safety net. It is not a strong foundation to build a relationship upon. And, what's to say that when things get hard for you again, she won't repeat this cycle? Her behavior is indicative of a woman who doesn't really care about the men in her life, only how they make HER feel at any given moment.
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