bolase Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 So, this guy and I used to be flatmates 2 year ago. We got along great but we were in relationships and never flirted, though I thought he was gorgeous. We just message each other the odd time on bdays, christmas, random stuff. I know that he is now single (since 5 months ago) as am I, and he sent me a FB message over Christmas saying we should catch up in the news year. We agreed that we will go for a drink. Then he sent another msg saying he always thought I was super hot, he hopes that's okay to say, etc. That's fine, this guy has NO filter. He then says he has a dream about me, and I asked him teasingly what about, then the convo goes something like - him: mostly typical guy thoughts, you probably wouldn't want to know.. me: Im curious, I hardly ever turn up in dreams him: I can't remember the exact circumstances.. me: just teasing, you're really subtle him: I don't know what you mean me: this is entertaining but are these msgs going anywhere? him: haha we seem to be going around in circles I don't get it. Yes, I would hook up with him. In fact I respect him and think he's smart, funny, and fun he's about the perfect person I can think of to do this with right now, as I don't think we'd be couple material, but I do want some male company. Why is such a normally loud and confident (but maybe not with girls? I don't know) guy being so coy? Am I supposed to ask him around? What does he expect? I really feel that he started something and he should take the lead..
Author bolase Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 Could a possible reply be 'Well I've never been in this situation before [which is true, never wanted a casual thing before this time in my life] so I hope you're going to do something about it"
newmoon Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I had/have a guy like this in my life as well. it's like as soon as you give them the green light they are not willing to take the jump. I consider these type of men all talk and no action - if he isn't willing to make the move he isn't man enough. how sexy is that? it's not. a guy has to man up and make the move and not put it on you. if you've made it clear you're interested and he won't take action, then he's not all that interested. you should wait.
soccerrprp Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I'm sorry, but have you made it CLEAR that you are available and interested?
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