Chica411 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 This guy and I were emailing for a few days. He seems pretty upfront. The emails were every 12 hours or so, sometimes right away, seemed to be going fine. We both have similar interests and hobbies as well. I said he could ask anything, and he asked what I like to do and what movies? I replied, noticed he was online last night, and over 24 hours later no answer! I saw he was on now so sent a, "Hey hope you're having a good weekend!" And nothing. I wouldn't send anything else, but so frustrating! It's only been a little over a day so who knows. I think it's ok to follow up like I did, and I don't think I said anything wrong. Just not interested anymore or found someone more compatible lol Ever have this happen? Online dating is sooo tedious!!
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 You're putting too much thought and emotional investment into someone you've never met. He probably did find someone that interests him more. So what?? The first thing you need to tell yourself is that in online dating, nothing is real until you've met in person. Period. If you get some good conversation going, great, but don't think that guarantees anything is going to develop. Until you've met and established some REAL chemistry, then continue to try and meet and chat with other people. Message exchanges in OLD dating end all the time for no reason at all.
Author Chica411 Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 Oh no I wasn't too upset! Just frustrating, I have emailed others. Some answer. Some don't. Some are weird. So when it's clicking I'm just not always sure what to think if there is a sudden silence. And he did write back lol
Trnamakesnse Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Not interested, found someone else, had something come up in life. Personally I'm just out of school and jobless without my own place. I tried online dating then suddenly I was very aware that it would be a waste of time until I got on my feet first . No telling really, you did fine just don't message again unless he replies.
Lady2163 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I know your frustration. I can't get them to IM or answer emails. So, if I had one that quit answering for no known reason, I'd be frustrated as well.
Thegreatestthing Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Don't take it personally,this really attractive guy messaged me today but I could just tell he was really boring and probably going to be an accountant or something so I put no effort into the conversation and took long time to reply.I really just didn't care about the conversation. Sometimes person may change mind about you if your witty or something so it's not bad that you wrote again.
newmoon Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I have my own system of passivity online - I have found that when the guys message me and email me they are far more interested in talking then when I contact them. So, I don't contact first anymore. It's just like IRL - if you're bugging a guy with emails and IMs and such every 12 hours he's gonna get bored with you fast and move on. It's all meaningless until you meet in person anyway. 1
winny Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Chill girl... I do OLD myself and it sucks big time Don't take it too seriously.... if things have to work out they will... till then just play along.. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Honestly, as a guy who did OLD in the past, I never knew when it was appropriate to reply to a woman's message. So I would message her at minimum twelve hours later, at maximum a day later. The benefit of responding over twelve hours later, I thought, was to not seem needy and have time for interesting things to happen for me to share.
deathandtaxes Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Don't take it personally,this really attractive guy messaged me today but I could just tell he was really boring and probably going to be an accountant or something so I put no effort into the conversation and took long time to reply.I really just didn't care about the conversation. Sometimes person may change mind about you if your witty or something so it's not bad that you wrote again. Do you know many accountants? Don't paint us all with such a broad stroke. OP - Don't invest so much time in e-mailing. My experiences with such lengthy exchanges never end well. I think it builds up too much expectation in one or both parties. For instance - I had a rather lengthy exchange with this lady - she didn't want to meet up so soon. Fine, I thought. I'll wait and see. We e-mailed a lot. We had a lot of similar interests and tastes in things. And I mean A LOT of e-mail. So we finally meet. And it was meh. Just no chemistry. And it didn't help that she looked worse than her profile pictures. (Ladies - why, oh god why, do you not have current pictures with full-length shots??).
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