Pregant fiance and some confusin\Frustrating sexual moments

[prime81782]

My fiance is 2-3 months pregnant and well to be blunt she is driven me up a wall sexualy. Before when we made love it was great last for hours but now not so much. It just is annoying when she starts it brings me in the bed room and we start i go down on her and such, then we start the act and just kinda lays there i mean she does move dont get me wrong but its like she wont lay a hand on me or kiss me WTF. I asked what was up and she nearly snaped my head off, said that broke the moment for her and why did i aske that crazy ass question. But I just dont think she understands she is killen it for me. I tend to try my best to satisfy her and i think she used to do the same for me but now it just is not the same. Even as far as i went down on her she got hers then i went to kiss her she pushed my head away and said she dont kiss after that. Wich i dont get she has doen it many times before. I have no idea how to approach this. In my mind she is gettin off and thats it we arent maken love anymore. maybe some of yall can help me figure this out.

[Stone]

I am 3 months pregnat to.

 

As far as the kiss after you went down on her, my only suggestion is maby now she can smell it When we are pregnant our smells seem to increase and any 'weird" smell could make us puke.. Maby going down there on you may make her puke as well due to gag reflexes. I am trying to avoid throwing up as much as possible... you have no idea!!

 

Soon she will be in her 2nd trimester and she will be back to normal for a little while. Stay cool and give her lots of love and extra attention.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I know when I was pregnant, I had a problem with that too. Part of it was that once I was pregnant, I was having trouble reconciling my sexual self with my 'mother' self. I still have that problem from time to time. Its difficult to express - but sometimes the 'mother' seems like it shouldn't be tainted by the 'sexual'. Maybe your fiance is having some problems with the new mother part of her self and is having some trouble fitting this new persona in with her existing sexual self.

 

Another facet is the mourning period a woman goes through when she begins to think that being pregnant will end her sexual beauty. Her body will change. Some women do not welcome these changes. Some men are enchanted by pregnant women - their lush curves, large breasts, glowing skin. When I looked in the mirror, I saw big fat hips, a big fat belly, freakishly huge swollen sore engorged breasts, red ruddy skin, fat face and so on. My husband loved it. I hated it. I still have not come to accept my new body 100%, and I gave birth 8 years ago! My body is no longer a girl's body. Its a woman's body with childbearing hips no matter how much weight I lose.

 

So, seen from that way - is it easier to picture why your fiance may have some problems with sex? I don't think its a rejection of you - it sounds like more of a reaction to being pregnant in general. The hormones, the upcoming body changes, the morning sickness, the maternity clothes (I remember standing in the mall crying because the maternity clothes there were horrible - thank goodness for the chic maternity wear at Target!)... the changing of her 'self' as she takes on two new personas: the wife and the mother.

 

I expect she has a lot going on right now. The best thing you can do is get her communicating. Start talking to her about her and her needs - her fears, her hopes, and so on. You are missing out on sex, but she is readying herself for profound changes. Keep the lines of communication open. Make your talking be about you both, and what you both need. Make no demands, and be willing to listen.

 

She will also want to bring this up with her doctor as well - just to be sure that she isn't having some physical problems or imbalances/depression to complicate things.