How to talk to hot girls at the gym

[StanMusial]

My mom actually suggested I start going to Zumba classes because it's all women

 

Frankly, it's a ridiculous thought that a man can't go to a gym class because it's primarily women.

 

It's not like I'm trying to crash a Lamaze class.

 

There are quite a few ladies in the crossfit class at the Y I go to. Probably an even ratio of m/f. Maybe that would be better than Zumba.

[LetsGoBlues]

My mom actually suggested I start going to Zumba classes because it's all women

 

Frankly, it's a ridiculous thought that a man can't go to a gym class because it's primarily women.

 

It's not like I'm trying to crash a Lamaze class.

 

At the gym the girls who take the classes tend to be old, or younger and overweight. The hotties usually use the treadmills and bikes.

[somedude81]

There are quite a few ladies in the crossfit class at the Y I go to. Probably an even ratio of m/f. Maybe that would be better than Zumba.

I don't want an even ratio.

 

I want all the womenz to myself!

[MrCastle]

I don't want an even ratio.

 

I want all the womenz to myself!

 

Yoga class.

[StanMusial]

At the gym the girls who take the classes tend to be old, or younger and overweight. The hotties usually use the treadmills and bikes.

 

That's the exact opposite of the gyms I have been to.

[Philosopher]

I don't want an even ratio.

 

I want all the womenz to myself!

 

At the gym I go to all the classes seem to have more women than men, even the classes that you would have thought would appeal more to men, such as body pump tend to have more women than men. On the other hand, the actual gym floor, including the treadmills and bikes are very male dominated. Therefore any class is probably good for meeting women

[somedude81]

At the gym I go to all the classes seem to have more women than men, even the classes that you would have thought would appeal more to men, such as body pump tend to have more women than men. On the other hand, the actual gym floor, including the treadmills and bikes are very male dominated. Therefore any class is probably good for meeting women

That's been my experiences as well.

 

And it's not like there is a "No Boys Allowed" sign on the door where the classes are.

 

I'll definitely start going to some classes in the near future.

[StanMusial]

I don't want an even ratio.

 

I want all the womenz to myself!

 

This reminds me of a gym I used to go to. The treadmills were set up right next to the main exercise studio. I would stop in after work to get a few miles in. Every time they had one of the bodypump classes or whatnot it was always a roomful of ladies and the one lone guy in the back corner LOL. He definitely stood out, and not in a good way.

[MrNate 2.0]

Did you grab her ass yet, OP?

[somedude81]

This reminds me of a gym I used to go to. The treadmills were set up right next to the main exercise studio. I would stop in after work to get a few miles in. Every time they had one of the bodypump classes or whatnot it was always a roomful of ladies and the one lone guy in the back corner LOL. He definitely stood out, and not in a good way.

Why the hell was he in the corner?

 

It was stupid of him to bring attention to the fact that he was embarrassed to be there.

[MidwestUSA]

The problem is women think it's creepy when men approach them no matter where it is.

 

Especially when hard ons are involved!

[deathandtaxes]

Yoga class.

 

 

 

Dang skippy! Find a class. Go a bunch. Figure out who the regulars are. And once they see that you can hang with the best, you can try to strike up a conversation. Going to a class and sucking wind is not the best way to get the ball rolling. But when you can prove you belong, then it's not creepy.

[truth_seeker]

Does she take any classes? Take one of the classes she is in. Do you know anyone who works at the gym? They might know her and can introduce you to her.

[LetsGoBlues]

Also if I get a date how many dates before I can makeout with her and also sleep with her?

[sugarpea]

Pretty sure women that go to the gym go to workout only, and those women that don't go to the gym for that reason tend to leave looking just the way they did going in.

 

I would suggest if you need to pursue this then approach them and ask something harmless and not a crazy out of nowhere pick up line. Perhaps something around how to use certain equipment or something about fitness since you know you have that in common.

[somedude81]

Also if I get a date how many dates before I can makeout with her and also sleep with her?

Eleven dates.

[StanMusial]

Also if I get a date how many dates before I can makeout with her and also sleep with her?

 

Better try right away because there's a good chance there won't be another date.

[fortyninethousand322]

I have nowhere else to see girls since I just graduated college and don't go to school now.

 

 

I see a lot of hot ones at my gym. One thing I noticed is girls at the gym don't really talk to anyone and pretty much keep to themselves unless they're with a girlfriend of theirs.

 

 

But guys tend to talk to other guys more often for example. Like there are a few guys I talk with on a regular basis and guys tend to be more sociable with each other at the gym while girls don't talk to anyone.

 

 

Why is it women at the gym keep to themselves? They don't even talk to other women very much.

 

 

So how do yall talk to females at the gym without getting slapped or punched in the jaw?

 

 

Also there is this SUPER hot girl who works at the front desk in the gym. She's very hot. I don't get to talk to her though except she usually says "hi" and "bye" when you leave the gym. I get distracted by her when I workout and get a hard on.

 

Girls don't go to the gym to get hit on. They go to work out. Leave them be. Do you want to be chatted up while maxing out on the bench press? I sure don't.

 

Meet women some other way. No one wants to be harassed at the gym, work, the bar, the grocery store, at the DMV, etc.

[TaraMaiden]

Also if I get a date how many dates before I can makeout with her and also sleep with her?

 

I honestly doubt you're 30. You just told us you recently finished college....

 

From 1st post:

I just graduated college and don't go to school now.

 

I put you nearer.... 17.

 

Unfortunately, I would put your age of maturity about a decade lower.....

[nescafe1982]

Well, this thread is certainly an interesting read.

 

When I go to the gym, I put blinders on. I don't even register the dudes... and frankly, if someone talked to me, I don't think I would be pleased.

 

But then again, no man with any sense at all would approach me at the gym. When I lived in Boston, I developed a certain face/stance that I reserved only for when I rode the subway. It strongly conveyed a "no you don't think you're going to talk to me, mother effer."

 

Since moving to the 'burbs, I have repurposed this face for the gym.

 

People at my gym probably think I'm a bitch. (shrugs) Maybe they're right.

[kaylan]

OP.

 

Dude, Ive made buddies with men and women at the gym by just saying hi or asking about their work out. Its thats simple. All this bs about girls not wanting to be talked to is just that...BS. If the girl finds you friendly or attractive, she will be open to talking to you.

 

This is what I do the other night. I noticed a regular I usually see working out late at night. I needed to use some equipment adjacent to her, so I asked her if she was using it. She said no, and then I proceeded to say;

 

Me: "So are you like a weekend warrior? I feel like youre one of the few people I ever see come this late to the gym on a consistent basis"

 

Her: "Yeah, I just cant stand coming in when its busy...too many people to do deal with"

 

Me: "I feel you on that. Its much better at this time of night. Though I do miss seeing some of the other regular at times. Well, let me get this set in". (this is a summary, though we said a few other things)

 

I then allow her to get back to her workout, and I get back to mine. A few glances and such later, I ask her her name before I go finish my workout in another section of the gym.

 

And then I build on that since I know Ill be seeing her in the gym frequently. Simple.

 

One of my buddies at the gym met his long term girlfriend there. It started with them discussing their workouts, and things went from there. Dont listen to the people who say women dont wanna be hit on at the gym. Not true at all. My one buddy who works at the gym, and whos in phenonomal shape, always has chicks drooling over him. So do your thing OP.

 

PS - I wonder if the naysayers in this thread are truly people who frequently go to the gym. I mean like 3 or 4 days a week. Because I regularly see men and women talking at the gym and making friends with one another.

 

PPS - Calm yourself with the creepy staring and boner stuff though. Thats not cool. Do I sometimes get excited by certain girls I see and start to fantasize? Sure. But I dont stare, and I make sure to clear my mind quickly so I can walk around without a tent in my pants lol.

Edited January 13, 2014 by kaylan

[fortyninethousand322]

PS - I wonder if the naysayers in this thread are truly people who frequently go to the gym. I mean like 3 or 4 days a week. Because I regularly see men and women talking at the gym and making friends with one another.

 

I'm in the gym 5-6 days a week. I don't pay 10 bucks a month just to have a cool card on my key chain.

 

I talk to dudes all the time. Talking to women sends out a creeper vibe. Women know what's up. They know you talking to them about shoulder routine isn't you trying to compare notes...

[nescafe1982]

 

PS - I wonder if the naysayers in this thread are truly people who frequently go to the gym. I mean like 3 or 4 days a week. Because I regularly see men and women talking at the gym and making friends with one another.

 

I'm in the gym 3 times a week. But TBF, I'm not single, so I'm not looking to mingle anyway.

 

Additionally, I do have "social" fitness activities that I'd be more open to talking to someone at. I do a twice weekly running group that is awesome for that, organized through meetup.com.

 

I would be significantly less creeped out by a guy hitting on me at a fitness group activity (like a meetup or even a class in the gym) than by a guy approaching me on the gym floor. If I'm on the elliptical, treadmill, or (god forbid) lying prone on the hamstring machine, please don't talk to me. It's probably the most dreadful, awkward time to be chatted up ever.

[nescafe1982]

Long time lurker, but goodness, Onegoal, I've missed your posts.

 

I was just thinking the same thing.

[Eau Claire]

I don't mind a man saying 'hi'. I'll say the same back and get on with my routine.

 

Men at my gym for the most part are conscious of not making us women uncomfortable. Yes, I can tell they sometimes state at my boobs but they are not aware of it. I don't expect men to stop being men at the gym but I also expect them to be respectful.

 

Over the years there have only been a couple guys who were over the top friendly. The kind that you try to avoid eye contact with or they get chatty, etc. I just nod politely, don't encourage them and walk away.