vanellope Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 the wife want me write her down a legal paper which admit my adultary with her husband otherwise she is going to sue me, what should I to. I already no contact with the married man and I don't understand why she rise it now, I don't want to write down the papar, and I don't answer her mail.
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 You don't sign it of course.. you never put anything in writing unless advised by your attorney. What basis would she have to sue you ? I would at this point consider it an idol threat, and if you put it in writing then if it came to court there would be zero defense an attorney could work with. If they don't leave you alone then file your own papers, if you truly have had no contact then her contacting you is harassment. 2
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 She wants you to sign it so that she can sue you, not so she won't. 3
happy stillmore Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Don't sign anything! That is what lawyers are for, to deal with the legal stuff. I have never heard of this, asking someone to sign something like this. The W is punishing you when she should be angry at her husband as well. Maybe you should sue the MM for mental anguish he caused you? (Half joking) While you are at it, sue his wife for blackmailing you with the naked picture of you. If anything, be clear that you are seriously going to get a lawyer if either of them continue to harass you. 2
whatatangledweb Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 She can not sue you for that. She is trying to scare you so you will send it. Do NOT write down anything. Block her from contacting you even if you have to change emails. 2
TaraMaiden Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 She can't sue you without proof. You signing, will give her the proof. If she is filing for divorce against her husband, she must file for adultery with a third party (un-named).. Actually naming you in the divorce paper, without your agreement or consent, could lead to YOU suing HER for defamation of character. So she wants you to admit your guilt, so she can name you in the divorce settlement and maybe get more money. Refuse all communication with her. Sign nothing, admit nothing and if she keeps badgering/pestering/bothering you, tell her you will sue her for harassment and defamation of character. But don't sleep with other women's' husbands. Not a good move. Just saying...... 3
lilmisscantbewrong Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 No no no - do not sign anything and stop talking to her. Ignore all calls and contact - period. Protect yourself. 1
carhill Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 the wife want me write her down a legal paper which admit my adultary with her husband otherwise she is going to sue me, what should I to. 'Here's my process service address' 1
Quiet Storm Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I would not assume that she can't sue you for this. Here in the US, its possible in a couple of states (alienation of affection). It's also possible that you could be called to give a deposition regarding your relationship with him. You should seek legal advice from someone that knows the laws in your area. Ignore her, and take her correspondence to an attorney. 3
Author vanellope Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 thank you all then. I block her from mail, but can't block her messages from my phone. I don't plan to write her back, or write down paper evidence for her, but now she just keep sending me message that I NEED to answer her. I already no contact with her husband for months already, I think now she just want to destroy me. my family is rich and have some reputation in my country.
goodyblue Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Quiet is right. Although it is antiquated, it does happen occasionally. Rarely, almost never, does the BS win, but it could still be hell. My advice, don't sign anything and talk to an attorney as soon as humanly possible. Don't email, no paper trail. Don't text, don't call. Just disappear. 1
awkward Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I block her from mail, but can't block her messages from my phone. Change your phone number. Block all avenues of contact.
Realist3 Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 She has no legal grounds to sue you for anything.
underpants Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Throw her off your trail. Introduce another threat, the internet is great. Make one up and make sure it is untraceable to you, electronically and physical address wise. Use patience. Wait. Be glad to be rid of the drama, it doesn't mean you can't go out with smoke bomb. Get some help and find a healthy love in the future.
MissBee Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 (edited) She has no legal grounds to sue you for anything. Unless we know the laws where she lives we can't say for certain that there are no legal grounds, so the advice that she should seek legal counsel is the best route to make sure that these threats aren't idle. Edited January 12, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
Eggplant Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Make sure her only possible means of communication with you is a written one (email, mail, or text). That way, if she tries to blackmail you with the nude videos, you have proof of her foul play. Don't answer her.
carhill Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Valencia is in SoCal (look up Magic Mountain, been there many times), so Cali law applies, hence my advice to invite the lawsuit to be served, then have it reviewed by competent legal counsel *after*. No sense in spending money prior. If I had a nickel for every pissed off customer threatening to sue, usually because they were mad I sued them for not paying me. This stuff is just a pissing contest, in Cali anyway. No-fault and community property and no criminal conversation or adultery statutes relevant to affairs, at least according to my lawyer, whom I did pay good money to. 2
goodyblue Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 She has no legal grounds to sue you for anything. Don't tell her this. While we all know it almost never happens, it DOES occasionally, in the states anyway.
whatatangledweb Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Don't tell her this. While we all know it almost never happens, it DOES occasionally, in the states anyway. You are correct but you can only sue for that with proof. The OP said the BS is threatning to sue if she doesn't give her written proof. You can not sue someone if they won't write down their actions during an affair. Meaning the BS says she will sue her for not giving her proof, not for the affair.
Quiet Storm Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 You are correct but you can only sue for that with proof. The OP said the BS is threatning to sue if she doesn't give her written proof. You can not sue someone if they won't write down their actions during an affair. Meaning the BS says she will sue her for not giving her proof, not for the affair. It sounds to me like the wife wants her to sign something that she can use in her divorce proceedings. My impression was that BW is threatening to sue OP civilly if OP refuses to help with the divorce by signing a statement admitting to the affair. BW may have proof in emails and texts, but would rather have a signed statement so that she doesn't have to put embarrassing emails in her divorce filing. 2
wannabdone Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I am with everyone else, and knowing a few things about law, my suggestion to you is to NOT SIGN anything. Nor have any contact with her or him, at all. As another poster suggested, if you do sign, she now has legal proof that you in fact did have an A with her spouse. Is she still with your xMM? I would suggest that the ONLY communication you have with her or your xMM is through an attorney, and you threaten to file harassment charges on them if she does not discontinue trying to contact you.
Author vanellope Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 I don't know how is their relationship right now, but they are still married and live together. I don't know BS much, just heard from this married man and the mails she send me, I don't think she would devorse with him. now what she do is revenge i think, because we already no contact, or probability this MM talk to another woman but the wife thought is me. now I keep ignore her and see what she going to do later. in fact after last time video thing and today's thing happened, my feelings to this MM do drop dramatically, he just let his wife threat me as much as she can, and he just hide behind this storm. sometimes I really want to tell the wife what he did tell me behind her back, I feel so stupid I need to keep silent and let her play down me.
goodyblue Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 You are correct but you can only sue for that with proof. The OP said the BS is threatning to sue if she doesn't give her written proof. You can not sue someone if they won't write down their actions during an affair. Meaning the BS says she will sue her for not giving her proof, not for the affair. I do hear what you are saying... I just think that it's not wise to tell her there is nothing BS can do to op. We really don't know what proof BS may have and to give op a false sense of security is a big mistake. 1
Author vanellope Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 she has the mails and one video in his account, she always send me messages or mails and I just reply one time said he and me is no contact already which is around 3 or 4 months ago.
goodyblue Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Okay, here is what you do. You simply tell the BS to get bent! She has what she has, and there is no reason I can think of to give her even a tiny bit more. She's obviously looking for more proof so that she can either hang him out to dry in court, or to do something to you. You do NOT want to be pulled into this situation. Let go. You tell her in one final email that you will not be responding to any more contact. If she doesn't stop all contact, you will get a restraining order and have her charged with harassment. Then walk away. If she does do anything else, then FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THE PROMISE OF CONTACTING THE POLICE. And get an attorney. Protect YOURSELF, because clearly your xmm is NOT protecting you. Hang in there. 1
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