KindKiller Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Okay, this is pretty long, I hope you'll forgive me. I began college in September last year. In my English classes I sat next to this girl at the back of the class who looked really hot. During our first 2 lessons together we actually didn't speak at all because the teacher was speaking for the whole duration of the class, so there was never an opportunity to. In our 3rd lesson the teacher made the class do an activity which involved us working in groups and asking each other questions. That was the first time I got the chance to talk to the girl I'd been wanting to this whole time. We actually had a lot in common and I enjoyed talking to her, she acted as if she did too. We just had a lot in common like where we're from, our interests, and such things. We were talking for the whole lesson whenever we got the chance to and I was really glad. She smiled and gave me lots of eye-contact. I was actually playing it cool; I'm tall and pretty good-looking so I get a lot of female attention anyway, but I really wanted to have something with her. As I said, our first encounter went well. After the class we were still talking as we left, I asked her if we could hang out sometime and she said she couldn't on that day because it was her Dad's birthday, so I asked for her number and she gave it to me. I gave her my number too. I texted her once and she never replied. A couple of days later we had our next lesson and we said Hi and she seemed fine. I didn't wanna seem desperate so I waited a while before I asked why she didn't text me, and she said because she didn't have credit. This is where things start to get a little dodgy. She never replied when I texted her, next lesson she said there was something wrong with her phone and so she gave me a new number of which her friend said was fake. And she continued to not reply me. I actually ended up sitting next to a different girl in the class who was also really good-looking, and I got her to hang out with me. Me and this new girl ended up having a friends with benefits thing that didn't work out in the end. The girl I originally liked moved to another class, I'm unsure if it was related to me or not, so I rarely see her in college anymore, we don't say Hi or anything. The thing is, I still think about her and I wish things turned out differently. I'm wondering if I did something wrong, but really the first day we spoke was amazing and I did feel we connected. I've asked my friends what they think and they agree that something was definitely there between us. I don't know what to think of it, I guess I just need some closure but I don't know if I should approach her. I don't want to seem desperate. Was it the fact I asked for her number so soon? Was I too into the conversation with her? Did she get the impression that I'm a player? Was she just being friendly? As I said, I get plenty of female attention, but I'm just hung up on this one girl who remains a mystery to me.
d0nnivain Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 It sounds to me like she was just a flake & it had nothing to do with you. Let her go. Find a new girl.
ae86drift Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 She not interested, find someone there is lots of girls out there
winny Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 She wasn't interested in dating you... maybe she has a BF already..
deathandtaxes Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 This is a good lesson in life to learn. You can beat yourself up with woulda shoulda couldas. But this didn't have anything to do with it. Don't take it personally. She just wasn't that interested in you. It doesn't really matter why she never texted you. Just enjoy the memories of that first time you talked and move on. The world is full of women.
Author KindKiller Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 Thanks a lot, I feel easier to move on now. This was just something I was carrying on my shoulders, wondering what I did wrong. But I suppose if she ever liked me she would have showed more interest. I guess I interpreted our initial connection as more than just politeness.
Barbarossa Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 I'm also in college and I think you came on too strong. I usually will get numbers early in case I miss class or have questions about work but I try to become acquaintances with a girl before I ask her out. If your looking to put in minimal effort to get women go to parties/bars.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 You didn't do anything. It is probably that she initially was interested then met someone else she was more interested in. Then she didn't have the heart to just tell you what was going on. The fake number thing I can see working if she met you in a club but then your going to be in the same class room again and again so WTH? Anyway move on, their are plenty of more girls in college. Furthemore never get TOO too serious about a college relationship. The best case scenario is often you meet a good woman in college, like her, are with her for four years. Then break up at graduation. So just relax and enjoy having a pool of similar age, similar interest, unmarried people to choose from. After college it only gets harder to find that.
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