Strange behavior from ex

[Nanners]

As some of you may know I am at 90+ days of no contact with my ex gf. To sum up breakup story; ex breaks up with me through text message, I agree to it, got drunk that night, she finds out and calls me a couple days later, last thing I told her was talk to you sometime, after that I went strict no contact.

 

Okay here's the situation. About a week ago my friends gf sent him a snap chat of my ex smiling with the caption "Tell him (ex name) says Heey". He asked if I wanted to reply and I said no.

 

A few days ago my parents were at the grocery store. They told me that my ex went out of her way to approach them. She smiled and asked them how everyone was doing. This is strange because during the old relationship she was extremely intimidated by my mom. She wouldn't even talk to my mom unless I was with her.

 

Last night I was hanging out with some friends when one friend said, "Hey did you hear (ex name) got dumped a couple weeks ago" "Jump on that buddy!" I laughed and said no way. (She jumped into another relationship after breaking up with me)

 

That's when another friend said this, "She talked about you yesterday. She said she dodged a bullet with you."

 

I'm really confused by that comment. First off I thought back on the old relationship and I couldn't think of anything to make her say that. Second if she thought she dodged a bullet with me why would she send that snap chat. Also why would she go out of her way to talk to my parents.

 

I doesn't make sense to me. I never have had an ex act like this.

 

If I had to guess may be shes just mad that I ignored her first attempt to make contact. Hopefully someone on this forum can shed some light on this situation because I'm really confused.

Edited January 11, 2014 by Nanners

[Rocky89]

Isn't it obvious? She got dumped and is looking for a sure thing which she thinks is you.

 

The snap chat incident was more than likely her way of testing the waters to see how you would react. By ignoring it you peaked her interest more.

 

The grocery store incident is interesting. You said she was intimidated by your mom while you guys were in a relationship but there she was trying to hold a conversation with her. And she asked how everyone was doing. The only person she was looking to see how they were doing was you. That shows shes getting curious as to what your up to. By the way what did your parents say to her?

 

As for the comment she made that could be interpreted numerous ways. One way I think it could be is that shes trying to stop her self from falling for you again. So shes trying to create a negative image of you in her head. If during the relationship, that you had with her, nothing bad happened she is going to have a tough time creating you in a negative light.

 

If she doesn't find another guy soon shes going to get more desperate to get your attention. So prep yourself my friend bread crumbs are heading your way.

[Simon Phoenix]

I would have your friends stop reporting her activities to you for one.

[Nanners]

Isn't it obvious? She got dumped and is looking for a sure thing which she thinks is you.

 

The snap chat incident was more than likely her way of testing the waters to see how you would react. By ignoring it you peaked her interest more.

 

The grocery store incident is interesting. You said she was intimidated by your mom while you guys were in a relationship but there she was trying to hold a conversation with her. And she asked how everyone was doing. The only person she was looking to see how they were doing was you. That shows shes getting curious as to what your up to. By the way what did your parents say to her?

 

As for the comment she made that could be interpreted numerous ways. One way I think it could be is that shes trying to stop her self from falling for you again. So shes trying to create a negative image of you in her head. If during the relationship, that you had with her, nothing bad happened she is going to have a tough time creating you in a negative light.

 

If she doesn't find another guy soon shes going to get more desperate to get your attention. So prep yourself my friend bread crumbs are heading your way.

 

My parents just said everyone is doing good. And then they walked away.

 

It kind of make sense to me know but it annoys me that she would say that. i was nothing but good to her. Her loss I guess

 

I would have your friends stop reporting her activities to you for one.

 

I have told most friends about not telling me what shes up to. I'm guessing they just wanted to she how I would react or something. Its no biggie, just a little annoyed.

[JDPT]

Pretty common eradic post BU behavior, in other words it's understandable that your ex is all over the place. Hence the, "hey say hello..." Or speaking to your parents when she had a hard time in the past and the last one which I find to be the icing on the cake, getting dumped by her ex. Hey at least you are no longer the "ex" now you are the "ex-ex" good riddance. It's all silly antics if you ask me. Clearly, your ex is in not mental state to execute sounds decisions. You are doing an excellent job by not subscribing to her shenanigans. Continue to remain faithful to the almighty NC and continue to work on yourself, you have come a long way. Expand your horizons and make the best of it.