Kizza Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 What do you do? How do you react? I experienced something as simple as watching a movie I like with him, which is NOT a chick flick by any means and he, toward the end of the movie, decides to start saying how 'gay' it is and blah blah blah..... after watching practically the whole thing! ....he seemed to be enjoying it.... It has annoyed me and now I am here writing this post grrrrr.... Whatever.... I'll let it go, but grrrrr ... wtf! why say anything ...
MidwestUSA Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 You didn't hold a gun to his head and make him watch it, right? He's entitled to his opinion. Simply say 'Well, I really enjoyed it'. Let him pick the next movie. More than likely, he's just running his mouth. Learn to ignore it, you'll be happier.
TaraMaiden Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I'm sorry, but this is trivia. Really, let it go. He's entitled to an opinion, and it's better for him to have watched the whole movie, rather than half of it (or none at all!) and THEN give his verdict. I'd prefer that. I personally can't abide people who develop a dislike for something they haven't actually tried for themselves. THAT would irritate ME more....! So he thought the film was off.... does he have likes that you find less likeable? Really, you two aren't joined at the hip, and diversity makes for interesting connections. wait until something really big, bites, before you hit the 'grrrrr!' zone.... 1
darkmoon Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 he saw the whole film and then wanted to discuss the film?
Author Kizza Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 Nah he did not want to discuss the film Darkmoon... he just made a few comments toward the end that made me feel ... insecure? for lack of a better word, which is my problem really, come to think of it.... He just made his comments and instead of reacting off the cuff I decided to come in and write a quick post. I have not mentioned anything and all is normal and good and I have let it go. Taramaiden thanks for your post, I understand that I am more than likely being silly and I am glad I came here first to receive the advise of fellow loveshackers. I also prefer people to at least try something before shredding it and this is what he did.... and yes he is entitled to his opinion, so as you say it is trivial and pointless .... I have put on a comedy show with a comedian he really likes and we have been having a really good laugh. I am glad I cAn come here for perspective and advise ... it really helps! xxx
d0nnivain Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 What do you do? How do you react? I experienced something as simple as watching a movie I like with him, which is NOT a chick flick by any means and he, toward the end of the movie, decides to start saying how 'gay' it is and blah blah blah..... after watching practically the whole thing! ....he seemed to be enjoying it When I read this I thought you were objecting to his disrespectful use of the word "gay" in a pejorative manner. If somebody says something I find offensive, I tell them that right there on the spot in a firm polite manner that leaves room for some discussion. You are upset because your BF disagreed with you about your taste in movies (or anything else). That you have to get over. Seriously if you like vanilla ice cream but he prefer chocolate how is that an indictment of your validity? It's just a different choice. Nobody is going to have the exact same tastes as you in all things. Work on your self esteem. Own your own choices. Learn how to respect other people's diversity. Your "problem" will disappear.
soccerrprp Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 ...another perspective. It bothered you enough to post about it. Was it simply a matter of differences in opinion? Did he say things that offended you? If so, this is not trivial. I would never let anyone get away with making remarks that offended me. It goes to compatibility and values. If it was as simple as he having different opinions than yours, then let it go. Oh, I would have been the type of person to let him know that I do not agree with the word "gay" being used in a pejorative sense. That's me.
Author Kizza Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 (edited) When I read this I thought you were objecting to his disrespectful use of the word "gay" in a pejorative manner. If somebody says something I find offensive, I tell them that right there on the spot in a firm polite manner that leaves room for some discussion. You are upset because your BF disagreed with you about your taste in movies (or anything else). That you have to get over. Seriously if you like vanilla ice cream but he prefer chocolate how is that an indictment of your validity? It's just a different choice. Nobody is going to have the exact same tastes as you in all things. Work on your self esteem. Own your own choices. Learn how to respect other people's diversity. Your "problem" will disappear. Maybe this is what had me reacting negatively? I am fine with people having difference in opinion and likes etc.... I am pretty laid back in general and wouldn't normally feel anything...perhaps it is Not the fact that he did not like the movie but the way he expressed his distaste for it.... either way I am glad I could come and post here rather than make an issue with him because really at the end of the day a comment is not all that detrimental and he is entitled to his own opinion... it's all good ... Edited January 11, 2014 by Kizza
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