DmxDex Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 (edited) I was seeing and sleeping with my friend for 10 months Both of us got out of a 5 year relationship the same time and have daughters the same age who became best mates. I was confused over my feelings and didnt move quick enough and realised after I had deep feelings. I have adhd and some emotional instability which im doing great with. On december 13 she started Talking to a 34 year old seperated married man who had already lied to her. She use to text we always and was really into me for 10 months. She says after a month she loves him and he makes her feel safe and is good to her and her daughter which I was. She wants to be friend and was still texting everyday but I yesterday I said I need time to be friends and she got annoyed and disrespecful. Why act like this and how can you be so obsessed with someone after a month. Me and her where very well matched alot in common and she still laughed and connected with me when our girls played in the park. Any ideas on her thinking. Has she just moved on or is she rebounding or is it gigs? Shes 23 and only had 1 real relationship for 5 years. She was cheated on twice by her ex. I went to a girl mates and she seemed annoyed saying I wont txt you as ill be a pain and I said its ok we dont talk alot anyways and she put be like that then. She then texted saying you dont need me as you have alot friends around you. This also came after I seen her with her bf on her doorstep and ignored her as I didnt want to cause problems. I was posting on facebook that night about how I was having a good time and she then posted im so happy I have a great daughter and bf who treats me right. Seems she was getting annoyed. She ignored the next day and played games. I feel hurt by her behaviour She refuses to delete My number and take me off facebook so I deleted her off facebook and her number as I need time. She also lied saying my ex was giving her dirty looks awhile back. Im on speaking terms with my ex and she swears she doesnt know her. I messaged my friend ex bout it and she rang upset and angry saying ive been their for you and I aint lying and hung up, that was yesterday Edited January 11, 2014 by DmxDex
Author DmxDex Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 Anyone got anything to say and help me with?
OhThatGirl Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Drama. Games. Sounds incredibly immature. Go without contact and find someone who can handle relationships and communication with more maturity. This "your ex gave me dirty looks" and similar nonsense are a waste of time. Just ignore it. She's still very young and is now involved with an older guy who "makes her feel safe and is good to her".. She's looking for a caregiver, not a relationship of equals. Good. Let her have it. Find something better suited for you.
Author DmxDex Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 How long do you go before you realise you dont love a person and realised you was with him because he was a caregiver.
OhThatGirl Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I feel like you're really asking "how long is she going to be with him before she realizes it is a mistake and comes back to me?" She may never realize what she's doing. People who don't have the emotional maturity to avoid situations like this rarely have insight. Read the rest of what I wrote. It's drama and games. It's nonsense. Move on. 1
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