LLQ1986 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Well that's what he told me and to the rest of his close friends. We all think that he's a good guy even though it's very wrong of him to cheat on me. I was having a long distance relationship with this guy for more than 2 years now; I'm due to see him next month. Just a month ago, a lot of unfortunate things happened to him; he was sitting for his exam for the 2nd/3rd time, his grandpa died (relatives all fighting for the inheritance hence no peace at home) and he got transferred to another department (his boss got let go and his pay got cut too). He told me during this period of time, he fell for another girl he met at a colleague's party. And he feels extremely guilty because he was very weak and couldn't believe he's done so. The girl kept calling & sending msges to him but he didn't reply (not sure if he do now as we have broken up for a week now) I still love him so I asked if he can let go of the feelings for her, he said it can't be done easily. He said he's an ******* for saying this, but choosing between us is like choosing between your own parents. I've never heard such thing before lol I have decided to befriend with him, because I'll still be going for the trip with my dad, and he has agreed to meet me up over the weekend. I have talked to one of his close friends, she told me he told her that he can't be with me because he feels very guilty. IS this possible? You don't want your ex back because you knew you have hurt her very much and you can't face her anymore? Or just a plain excuse.
thompkevin Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Yes, it's possible. He might be afraid that it'll be difficult to build trust in the relationship after he has cheated on you. Or maybe he just feels guilty being around you. I think he just needs some time to forgive himself for what he did.
pickflicker Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I wouldn't want someone to take me back out of guilt.
ariawuu Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 IS this possible? You don't want your ex back because you knew you have hurt her very much and you can't face her anymore? Or just a plain excuse. That's what my one said. Told me I deserved better and he did too.. but 8 months later he said he wanted us to grow first if there is going to be another chance because deep down he really wants to be with me! Now I just have to focus on my path to self improvement and happiness.
2fargone Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I wouldn't want someone to take me back out of guilt. I think you're getting it wrong here... It's not the guilt over breaking up itself, it's the guilt over the hurt that it has caused. And yes, my ex is like that. I wasn't even allowed to adapt slightly to her needs and wants, because even that would make her feel guilty... I don't believe it's an excuse. It's just the way some people are...
Author LLQ1986 Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 Guys, I need to move on for now. He feels sorry and guilty for what he's done to me but he is going to make things work with her because he sees a future with her. He only wanted to befriend with me and helps me to go thru this heartbreak so that i can let go and move on. I was scolding and literally begging him to try to make things work between us again but he said it's over now.
Xemyd Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Guys, I need to move on for now. He feels sorry and guilty for what he's done to me but he is going to make things work with her because he sees a future with her. He only wanted to befriend with me and helps me to go thru this heartbreak so that i can let go and move on. I was scolding and literally begging him to try to make things work between us again but he said it's over now. Uhg, this guy... An ex can't help you through a break up with them. The only helpful thing they could do would be to just disappear.
HeartinPain Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Guys, I need to move on for now. He feels sorry and guilty for what he's done to me but he is going to make things work with her because he sees a future with her. He only wanted to befriend with me and helps me to go thru this heartbreak so that i can let go and move on. I was scolding and literally begging him to try to make things work between us again but he said it's over now. This happens a lot. He left you for her. He had already had her lined up before he broke up with you. Do not contact him anymore. You need to also not be available when he calls you. Continuing to be his friend while he is with someone else will just cause you more pain.
Author LLQ1986 Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 This happens a lot. He left you for her. He had already had her lined up before he broke up with you. Do not contact him anymore. You need to also not be available when he calls you. Continuing to be his friend while he is with someone else will just cause you more pain. I know, he just couldn't bear me the truth that Ahole. Anyhow, He offered to plan my upcoming trip with my dad; accomodation and transport, and im still contemplating to make a decision of whether to go or not but most probably will, not because i wanted to see him but because i wanted to travel with my dad. So i'm gonna meet up with him when im there... It'd be a closure then.
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