Bishop556 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 (edited) So, I was going to see Austin Powers alone tonight at my college's movie theater. I was having a great time as this was a date for myself, a self improvement sort of outing. So, to my surprise, my ex comes with her new boy toy and sits about five seats away from me in the same row. I don't know if she intentionally sat next to me just to terrorize me or is she just was neglectful and didn't see me, but I was upset as anyone would be, especially since the break up occurred less than two months ago. I stood up and went to the bathroom to handle myself since I was frazzled, and then I came back and sat down two rows in front of her so I didn't have to see her, and since I have every right to watch a movie as much as she does. I don't feel so broken right now, but I do feel like I was taken a step back in my healing process as I truly felt like I was almost completely over her. Could anyone give me any tips or advice? I feel like I need some. Edited January 11, 2014 by Bishop556
Simon Phoenix Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Just bad luck dude. Get the frustration out of your system, vent to yourself, pick up the pieces and move forward. Good for you for not confronting her. I had a similar situation two weeks after I broke up with the ex that brought me here. I went to a pier area near where the both of us live and as I was leaving, I saw her putting money into a parking meter of the garage I was parked at. I bolted up the stairs to the next floor (I was just going back to refill the meter myself) and decided to get a drink. There's about 8-10 bars in this little area and I just wanted to have a couple beers and calm down. I picked a bar that we never went to together, figuring that'd be safe. Of course, I'm sitting at the bar on my second beer and I noticed two of her coworkers walking toward me from the bathroom (the bar I was at was facing away from the tables), I instantly knew she was there and was like "wtf?" I finished my beer quickly without chugging it and left the bar, looking straight ahead and making sure my eyes didn't wander. I leave the bar and look back through the window and see her back to the window. She was basically right behind me about three tables from the bar likely looking right at me. Freaked the hell out of me. Sometimes crap like that happens. Stew about it briefly, pick yourself up and move forward. I haven't run into her randomly since (helps that she moved from 10 minutes away to 25 minutes away). 1
organizedchaos Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I often wonder what will happen if/when I run in to my ex. We live in a major city but also about 5 minutes away from each other. Literally the same neighborhood. I could run in to her at any number of bars, restaurants, grocery stores in the general vicinity at any point on any day. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 They are showing Austin Powers in college movie theaters? Thats tight! YEAHHHHHH BABY Anyways, try not to let it rule you. It was a freak situation. I hope you come out of this better than you walked in. It sucks to see them after the situation, but such is life. 2
Author Bishop556 Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 I was shaken up, but I felt strong and proud of myself. First, I realized that even though she was sitting behind me, I could enjoy myself. I realized that I am worth so much. I had the time of my life, and I didn't need anyone to make me feel like this. I also realized I have changed much more compared to her. If she jumped from one relationship to the next, then she has not took anytime to learn anything from the break up, I feel. 2
pickflicker Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I think you handled it very well, all things considered. I'm not sure if I have any advice for you except well done! 2
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I was shaken up, but I felt strong and proud of myself. First, I realized that even though she was sitting behind me, I could enjoy myself. I realized that I am worth so much. I had the time of my life, and I didn't need anyone to make me feel like this. I also realized I have changed much more compared to her. If she jumped from one relationship to the next, then she has not took anytime to learn anything from the break up, I feel. Very nicely done brother. Now, remember how proud you are of yourself now and use that the next time there is a hard task with her involved. You CAN do it (as cheesy motivational as that sounds)
Author Bishop556 Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 It feels great to be happy again with my head high knowing that I am good looking, intelligent young man who is worthy of love. I know that my next relationship will be better as I know I need a mature partner, and I know my happiness and self worth is extremely important. I feel emotionally lighter, I feel like I have finally forgiven myself for my mistakes. 1
Chi townD Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 That's great. Yeah, I know it sucks to see her out with someone else and REALLY crappy that she sat 5 seats away from you. But, I think you handled things quite well! Keep up the good work! Continue to find your inner strength and your self improvement.
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