macflores Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 So my GF just broke up with me 12 hrs ago.. Weve been in a long distance relationship for 1 year and 3 months. Weve met twice last year and stayed together under one roof. Naturally our relationship will rely much on communication to keep us as close as we can via text message, phone call, video call, vice versa. Its how we actually started getting close from the beginning. Well weve both took this relationship serious. Im 23 shes 26, shes older. The problem ive had with her which started around 6 to 8 months into our relationship is her moodswings that puts a wall between us despite the fact that I already cant physically see her. Small things would trigger her mood at leave me off with cold feet. Whenever shes moody she tells me to leave her alone for a while and that means 24 hrs. Totally no contact. And it happens 2 to 3 times a week. It even happened when I stayed with her, she was on the edge of the bed while I was in the other, she would ignore me when I talk. This is torture and whenever I open up to her about it she gets mad at me and pushes me to just understand her moods, but she usually wouldnt open up to me. I hate guessing what the problem is when shes being cold. Things wouldl get into my head if i did something wrong or said something she disliked. She just dont like to talk cuz when she talks she cant remain calm. But the next day she would be Fine and when I ask her what happened, she would tell me not to talk bout the past. Im not a man to not talk out problems, it bothers me mentally and emotandally. I like to fix what is bothering her. The fact that she usually wouldnt let me know makes me so insecure that it makes me feel im useless and just being pushed aside. I couldnt take it anymore, we started arguing bout it for numerous times, I asked her many things cuz I was forced to ask, she wouldnt open up to me, it made me think I was being actually cheated on honestly. I felt insecure and she told me im being possessive. I had to be clingy to pass through the cold treatment cuz it kills me with eyes wide open. Last night she told me she was tired of the arguements.. I never meant to argue. Everytime I reach out to her she takes it as an attack and results again to the cold teatment. She gave up on our relationship. I maybe wrong on things I wont defend myself. I was clingy cuz I cant fight the cold shoulder just by keeping quiet and getting depressed. Havent slept for the past 31 hrs. Shes a very nice person I love her to death but her moods and my persistence had overpowered the happiest moments we have. I do want her back. She told me to accept it.. what do I do?
pickflicker Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 You can't do anything except go No Contact.
innocentbutterfly Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 LDR here too, 2 years, had this too, among many other things, he was the one always keeping me at arms length. I learned one word here fits perfectly for people like our exes - immaturity. You won't make them change, trust me I tried one too many times in vain always to feel hurt, feel like all is my fault etc. Leave it. Its like you were the one pushing this relationship along, same as it was with mine. Just let it go.
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