meadow19 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 If you read through my other topics you'll have a better understanding of the whole situation, but long story short me and my ex of a year and a half broke up in September. We called it quits because of the constant arguing and we really just resented eachother. We spent the next month together for our anniverary, and the next four to be exact. We had amazing times every time we spent time together. He however told me he wanted to be single and he loved me and cared about me and still liked me and had a thing for me, but he also did say the feelings werent strong enough to want to make me his girlfriend again... then we went a month with no contact and I called him because I wanted a real reason why he left me. I told him he gave me the impression it was because we were each others first everything and he wanted to be single and young and branch out and see what else was out there and he said maybe that was it... when he said that I thought oh okay, that probably is it.. then I asked if he still loved me and he said idk... then i said if you saw me tomorrow, would you be able to say you love me and he said no, I dont love you anymore. He told me he had a lot of time to think in the month and he hadn't talked to me in awhile and he fell out of love with me. I then asked if there was still a chance for us down the line and I was hoping he said no, just for my own benefit so I wouldnt have any hopes in the back of my mind. But he kept saying idk, and he kept getting mad because i said that didnt make sense and he started yelling at me and I hung up and he never called back. I felt If he says he doesnt love me then how dont you know if theres a chance, the obvious answer would be there isnt. I don't understand why he insisted on saying idk instead of saying, no theres not a chance. I also dont understand how a month ago he would make a point of telling me he loved me and now it just isnt there. I told him it either meant he was lieing then or lieing now and he said he meant it then, he doesnt anymore. How do you stop loving someone in a month? I thought you always had a thing for your first love, but I guess not? I understand he doesnt love me anymore, but why not just make things easier for me to move on by saying no there isn't a chance in the future. I hate that he wouldn't give that to me.
OhThatGirl Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Dont expect him to make it easy for you by telling you there is no chance left. Youre not making it easy for him by asking these questions. He wants out, let him out. Not all dumpers are heartless. He feels its going to hurt worse to be upfront. Cut ties. Heal. Find someone that pursues you instead of giving you a wishy washy answer about the possibility of a future.
Sasukie Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 My ex gf and I argued plenty this october. We broke up on my decision because I wanted to restrict the friction and it was getting too much. I was being fully disrespected. We broke up, we wanted to reconcile a couple days later, but then she asked for 2 weeks to see if she saw me as a bf or a best friend (which is stupid). In two weeks she lost her feelings for me, I was a good boyfriend and always supported her. But things just happen and she met someone new right after our breakup and started dating him. During breakups people tend to think about themselves only. It's never about how the other person feels, just how "you" yourself feels in the moment. Either way, there's no point of thinking about it, let the questions rest and do your own things. If one day he messages you and tells you he made a mistake then reconsider things. Other than that, nopoint of asking the whys and what ifs. You can't control what other people feel or think
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