CuriousLove Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Okay, so I met her in July.. We met at a mutual friend's birthday dinner, and I was seated next to her. We hit it off right away! During our convo she mentioned several times that she has never had a boyfriend before and she gets really bored of them or annoyed with them very easily. At the end of the dinner I asked her for her number and said we should hang out sometime. She texted me later on that week and asked me to go to the mall with her, because she wanted to go shopping. I said yeah I would go because I wanted to do some shopping of my own... But.. What I noticed was that.. She didn't buy anything. Lol...She didn't really need to go shopping. Seems like she just wanted to hang out with me? And she wore this really skimpy and very shorty flirty summer dress with no bra. But I didn't even think anything of it. It wasn't until we were in bath and body works and she grabbed my hand and rubbed lotion on it really soft and gentle like... I thought that was kind of weird? But I didn't think much of it. It wasn't until we were texting one day, and I made a joke about her walking into class with bold red lip stick, and then she added "And nothing but a victoria's secret bra and underwear" ...I thought that was kind of weird... Well we hung out again, and this time when we hung out as we walked.. She kept linking her arm with my arm and pulling me in really close to her. Like boyfriend and girlfriend do. We got some REALLY strange looks... But I liked it when she pulled me close, so I didn't push her away. A couple of times we were standing in line at some stores and she would wrap her arms around me and rest her head on my shoulder..... Then she said for our next hang out we should do a sleep over....And then I went on vacation, and I got back, and she was like "let's hang out!" And she wanted to see me literally the day I got back. Which I thought was a little hasty. Lol I hadn't even unpacked yet. I couldn't hang out with her because I was having dinner with my family, and I just wasn't settled yet. So I said let's schedule for another day. And she couldn't those other days because she had prior things scheduled. So then she texts me the next day and says she wants to cancel her plans so that I can sleep over at her house.. But I said that I had already scheduled something else (which is true)...So then she said how about Monday then? So I'm going to sleep over at her place on Monday... Does this seem a bit fishy at all.. Or am I over analyzing things? Because I do know some girls are very affectionate and touchy.. Oh by the way I am 23 and she is 21
nescafe1982 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 So, I'm guessing you're female? Are you into her?
Author CuriousLove Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 So, I'm guessing you're female? Are you into her? DEFINITELY! And yes I'm a girl.
Author CuriousLove Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 Oh and I've always thought I was bi.. But I've never acted upon it.. And she doesn't know that I feel this way. All she knows is about me breaking up with my boyfriend.
Raena Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Some girls are just very affectionate, yes. I had a roommate once that was bi and she never hit on me because I made it clear to her I wasn't into woman. The next roommate I had was definitely not into woman, but she was always all over me, hugging, snugging, so on. I never thought anything of it, we were just friends. I guess the best you can do, if you are interested in her, is hang out and see where it goes. When you know her better ask her.
nescafe1982 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I guess the best you can do, if you are interested in her, is hang out and see where it goes. When you know her better ask her. I agree with this. You could try talking to her... only way to know is to ask. Good luck! I mean, it's hard to know whether her playfulness if friendly or flirty without talking to her directly..
Author CuriousLove Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 I agree with this. You could try talking to her... only way to know is to ask. Good luck! I mean, it's hard to know whether her playfulness if friendly or flirty without talking to her directly.. Thanks for the responses you two.
Author CuriousLove Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 Guess I'll just wait to see if she tries anything at the sleep over.
georgecostanza Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Kiss her and then tell us all of the details after the sleepover
SYLLPalmer Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 Okay, so I met her in July.. We met at a mutual friend's birthday dinner, and I was seated next to her. We hit it off right away! During our convo she mentioned several times that she has never had a boyfriend before and she gets really bored of them or annoyed with them very easily. At the end of the dinner I asked her for her number and said we should hang out sometime. She texted me later on that week and asked me to go to the mall with her, because she wanted to go shopping. I said yeah I would go because I wanted to do some shopping of my own... But.. What I noticed was that.. She didn't buy anything. Lol...She didn't really need to go shopping. Seems like she just wanted to hang out with me? And she wore this really skimpy and very shorty flirty summer dress with no bra. But I didn't even think anything of it. It wasn't until we were in bath and body works and she grabbed my hand and rubbed lotion on it really soft and gentle like... I thought that was kind of weird? But I didn't think much of it. It wasn't until we were texting one day, and I made a joke about her walking into class with bold red lip stick, and then she added "And nothing but a victoria's secret bra and underwear" ...I thought that was kind of weird... Well we hung out again, and this time when we hung out as we walked.. She kept linking her arm with my arm and pulling me in really close to her. Like boyfriend and girlfriend do. We got some REALLY strange looks... But I liked it when she pulled me close, so I didn't push her away. A couple of times we were standing in line at some stores and she would wrap her arms around me and rest her head on my shoulder..... Then she said for our next hang out we should do a sleep over....And then I went on vacation, and I got back, and she was like "let's hang out!" And she wanted to see me literally the day I got back. Which I thought was a little hasty. Lol I hadn't even unpacked yet. I couldn't hang out with her because I was having dinner with my family, and I just wasn't settled yet. So I said let's schedule for another day. And she couldn't those other days because she had prior things scheduled. So then she texts me the next day and says she wants to cancel her plans so that I can sleep over at her house.. But I said that I had already scheduled something else (which is true)...So then she said how about Monday then? So I'm going to sleep over at her place on Monday... Does this seem a bit fishy at all.. Or am I over analyzing things? Because I do know some girls are very affectionate and touchy.. Oh by the way I am 23 and she is 21 I went that route in my late twenties. However, in hindsight it was purely experimental. Now that I am 42 my sex drive is in overdrive and this clarifies somethings for me i.e. I worship the c0ck. Still certain women continue to attract me. What is my point? I was a tease and made the mistake of biting off more than I could chew by getting involved with a self proclaimed lesbian that originally slated herself as a lipstick. I broke up with her at about 6 months cuz she was just too damn butch for me. Then four of my close girl friends jumped my bones. LOL. What was all that I don't know. For me this was part of growing up, the lines got blurred, alcohol fueled the fire and I wouldn't change a thing. Summarily if you are a lesbian this girl may just be playing with you. Let her bring you out but don't expect the moon and stars. If you are just curious wash you hair with raspberry shampoo and go to the sleep over. You will get your answer by the end of the night. ;)Peace.
Author CuriousLove Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 I went that route in my late twenties. However, in hindsight it was purely experimental. Now that I am 42 my sex drive is in overdrive and this clarifies somethings for me i.e. I worship the c0ck. Still certain women continue to attract me. What is my point? I was a tease and made the mistake of biting off more than I could chew by getting involved with a self proclaimed lesbian that originally slated herself as a lipstick. I broke up with her at about 6 months cuz she was just too damn butch for me. Then four of my close girl friends jumped my bones. LOL. What was all that I don't know. For me this was part of growing up, the lines got blurred, alcohol fueled the fire and I wouldn't change a thing. Summarily if you are a lesbian this girl may just be playing with you. Let her bring you out but don't expect the moon and stars. If you are just curious wash you hair with raspberry shampoo and go to the sleep over. You will get your answer by the end of the night. ;)Peace. I'm definitely not a full blown lesbian, I don't even know if I qualify as bi-sexual..What I do know is that I am sexually attracted to women..That's it. I could never have a relationship with a woman. Only a man. But I could fool around with a woman for sure.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 I'm definitely not a full blown lesbian, I don't even know if I qualify as bi-sexual..What I do know is that I am sexually attracted to women..That's it. I could never have a relationship with a woman. Only a man. But I could fool around with a woman for sure. CuriousLove. Sexuality can be thought of as a spectrum. So can emotional attachment. Being able to find someone of the same sex attractive every now and again certainly wouldn't make you bi.
Author CuriousLove Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 I also forgot to add the major thing that I thought was weird...One day we were walking and I was complaining about how I still don't have a boyfriend after my break up with my ex...And she was like, "I'll be your boyfriend..." It caught me off guard and I thought it was a weird way to joke around.... But I didn't want to make her feel bad so I just went with it, and said "Okay, buy me tons of jewelry and call me a million times a day and tell me how wonderful I am" and I just laughed it off.. But do girls say those kinds of things to each other?
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