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okay so a couple of months ago i got together with a guy from work. yes in a sexual sense after knowing him for awhile.i know big mistake dont pee where u drink. anyhow..that happened. so… there wasa fight..he wouldnt talk to me after and said bad stuff about me to my friend. she threatened him and told him to stay away from me cuz she knew he was no good. then EVERYONE at work found out what happened and it was huge drama. now at work now that its blown over…he is really starey. like alwyas looking at me ( i dress up more for work) this is a second job for me as well not the main one. anyhow…hes always looking at me ..we both look at eachother with the kinda ( i have feelings for you ) look. and…everytime i try to ask him for help with stuff he kinda ignores me..and wont help. like hes doing it out of spite. like why is he doing this?

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He could possibly be thinking you are to blame for all the drama somehow

and is waiting for you to apologize for any problems between you.

His immature silent treatment seems to align with this guess.

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Ya. like it was stupid. i apologuzed to him already like a month ago via text i told him i hoped he found what he was looking for..and that i had feelings for him at work for awhile. my friend threatened him cuz i tected him all that week and he didn't answer. so it was basically a hump and dump. now he's looking at m.e like he knows he screwed up and wants more..

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you...must be young? considering friends & coworkers are all involved.

 

My advice? Find a guy you don't have drama with. Find a guy who brings peace and a feeling of content to your life, this isn't that guy or that situation.

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Thanks veggirl...no I'm not that young to be honest. just stupid to have involved a friend...and stupid to not know,better than having things to do with a coworker. I was working at the job oncall so i thought it would bee okay . Turns out no. he's immature about it. well thanks.

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This is why I repeatedly caution people to not get involved with people at work. There are so many ways things can end up pear-shaped. And repercussions that you may not think about. As in, OP, how would you know that the guy would be immature about it? I just think there's too many people out there to want to get involved with co-workers.

 

 

Do you like him staring at you now? Do you like that he won't help you at work? Then you need to talk to him. With civility.

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