1994O Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 me and my gf of 9 months broke up. she broke up with me because she was unhappy, preferred being on her own than being with anyone. it's the truth. she doesnt even socialise with her family these days. she said she doesnt want a relationship right now and doesnt for a while but would like to remain friends.we were madly in love, but she lately began to become distant and eventually admitted she wants to be on her own. there are no other men involved, she is being genuine and i have proof so dont tell me otherwise. im not sure what to do? im 19 and shes 17. she said she does want to get back together in the future but doesnt know when that will be. she wants to get married and have kids. i am still madly in love with her but i dont want to cut her out of my life. if i be myself and be fun around her she might realise whats she's missing? or am i better to go NC? please help, im desperate and honestly need this girl in my life. i know she is the one!
Teejee Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I am also suffering from a breakup. I think the best you can do is NC. She has made up her mind and I don't think you can do anything about that. You can't control her feelings. And about her 'I want to marry you' statements, don't take them too seriously (sorry). She is only 17 and you are 19, so there is no way that she already knows who she wants be married with in the future. Be strong and don't contact her!
Chi townD Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU!!!!! hee...hee.... Sorry, couldn't resist when you told me not to. To be honest, I don't know if she is or isn't. I'm pretty good with vibes and I'm not really getting any on this. Well, she's pulling away from you and you stated that she's also pulling away from her family. I'm getting a depressed vibe here more than anything else. She could be depressed for whatever reason. I'm going to give you some advice. Unfortunately, you won't follow it. But, if you do then..... you need to go complete No Contact on her. You need to be a ghost. She's making the choice to have you out of her life; therefore, you give her exactly that. She needs to see what life is going to be like without you in it. she need to know that you are not available to her by her own choosing. So, here's the hard part for you. She's going to reach out to you. She'll text with a "Hi" or "I really miss you." You need to ignore it. These are called breadcrumbs. She's feeling a little down and she needs a little ego boost. Those are NOT indications that she wants you back. She's looking for you to make her feel better. If you respond, then she's satisfied and you won't hear from her for a while and you're left coming back on here asking US what the hell did that interaction mean?!?! So, you need to IGNORE IT ALL!!! The ONLY text or phonecall you should entertain is a "I'm sorry. I was wrong. I'll do anything to get you back." That is the ONLY thing you entertain. You up for the task? 1
BDL Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 please help, im desperate and honestly need this girl in my life. i know she is the one! First time posting here but I think I can help you here. I've been through breakups where my gf left me as well. What you need to understand is that your gf left you because you are weak. Being desperate and needy are total attraction killers for girls. She is also not "the one". You are so damn young, you will find love again. In your situation, I would start bettering myself like working out, acquiring new skills, and basically being able to be happy being alone and being independent. Be strong and build your confidence. This is really the only chance you could get your girlfriend back. But by then, you'll be having so many girls flock to you that you get to choose, and you may not want your ex back at all. The way I see it, your ex did you a tremendous favor breaking it off with you.
Author 1994O Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU!!!!! hee...hee.... Sorry, couldn't resist when you told me not to. To be honest, I don't know if she is or isn't. I'm pretty good with vibes and I'm not really getting any on this. Well, she's pulling away from you and you stated that she's also pulling away from her family. I'm getting a depressed vibe here more than anything else. She could be depressed for whatever reason. I'm going to give you some advice. Unfortunately, you won't follow it. But, if you do then..... you need to go complete No Contact on her. You need to be a ghost. She's making the choice to have you out of her life; therefore, you give her exactly that. She needs to see what life is going to be like without you in it. she need to know that you are not available to her by her own choosing. So, here's the hard part for you. She's going to reach out to you. She'll text with a "Hi" or "I really miss you." You need to ignore it. These are called breadcrumbs. She's feeling a little down and she needs a little ego boost. Those are NOT indications that she wants you back. She's looking for you to make her feel better. If you respond, then she's satisfied and you won't hear from her for a while and you're left coming back on here asking US what the hell did that interaction mean?!?! So, you need to IGNORE IT ALL!!! The ONLY text or phonecall you should entertain is a "I'm sorry. I was wrong. I'll do anything to get you back." That is the ONLY thing you entertain. You up for the task? yea that sounds good and ive been feeling the same as you have said to be honest! if its meant to be she will be back eventually and if not ill be a better person
TaraMaiden Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I will totally back Chi_TownD's post with a recommendation you read the No Contact Guide in my signature. Basically, it supports everything he said....
Sasukie Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I thought we talked about this before. You posted something similar to this previously. Don't go NC, go talk to her. Try to get her back! Then you'll lose her. Do it, sometimes the best lesson is a hard one.
Sasukie Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I thought we talked about this before. You posted something similar to this previously. Don't go NC, go talk to her. Try to get her back! Then you'll lose her. Do it, sometimes the best lesson is a hard one.
Author 1994O Posted January 12, 2014 Author Posted January 12, 2014 shes confusing me so im just going nc without telling her. she said friends is the best we can be for now. i cant really be friends since im still in love with her. i suppose she wont know whats life really like without me until im gone!
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