PinkDotsXOXO Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Hey everyone thanks in advanced for your help! I apologize in advanced for the long post. To make a long story short I had been dating my boyfriend for 3 months but we had been official for 2. Out of nowhere he decides to break up with me. But won't give me a straight up reason. To give some background, he is 25, I am 24 and his parents control every aspect of his life (i believe this is due to his mother's many miscarriages and he is considered the "miracle baby"). They always need to know where he's going, why, when he'll be back and will guilt trip him if he does not spend enough time with them. He doesn't have a job that pays enough money to move out but he is looking for one. He admits his mom "wears the pants" in his family. He has told me in the past he would not date anyone his parents do not like. His parents and I seemed to get along REALLY WELL despite all of this and I used to really like them. zit turns out, for weeks they have been on him about me and finally he couldn't take it anymore. They say I "have a heart of gold" but have an issue with my parents being divorced, the way I dress, and the way I look. I have lost a significant amount of weight but they doubt i will keep it off and they are afraid I will gain it back. Due to all of this, he broke it off with me. Irony plays a part in this as his dad does not talk to his entire side of the family because they all hate my ex's mom (his wife). So I would figure them of all people would understand. My ex tells me he loves me and wants to be with me and is unhappy now that we are no longer together. Lately we have been still talking every night and sneaking around seeing each other. But he needs to make up his mind because eventually they are going to find out and likely flip out on him. I just don't know what to do....any advice i appreciated!
nescafe1982 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 You can't date a man who refuses to be an adult. It's just impossible. Until he decides to stop letting his parents make his decisions for him, he's effectively not available for a romantic relationship with a consenting adult. Don't waste any more time waiting on this one. Make some effort to move on, and maybe someday, down the road, if he gets his **** together, then you can see each other again. But he's got some issues if he's allowing his family to make his romantic decisions for him. Issues that you are not going to be able to solve for him. 2
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