Lamestar Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 My partner and I have been together for a while. She's the first gf I've ever had though I've dated slept with an almost equal number of partners. We have a lot of issues. Things I honestly have considered leaving her over like this one drunken night three years ago she slapped me. It hasn't happened sense but she criticizes me and makes me question myself. She has a lot of anger issues because of her parents but she finally confronted them and has started to really become there for me as a loving kind and supportive partner. Then we had a threesome. It was planned and never was anything we thought would happen. Worst yet it was with our best friend and he confessed being in love with us. We were all really messed up and I said we loved him too. The truth is I love him too. I'd been trying to avoid it. Trying to ignore it or dismiss it but this encounter has made it take over my mind. I love my partner and we have planned a life together. We got our domestic partnership papers and were going to get married before all this happened. Above all else she is my best friend. The person I feel most comfortable with being myself and sharing my secrets to. The only person I've broken down and let all my **** come out. Of course she rehurt me in all the ways I told her I'd already hurt and I don't trust her. Plus our sex isn't good any more and hasn't been for at least a year. But before I stopped trusting her it was the hottest ever. I want her and me to have what we had but I don't know if ill ever be able to forgive her or what these other feelings mean. Plus he's in love with her too. I mean complicated doesn't begin to explain it...
HokeyReligions Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 You cant go back. Your relationship will never be what it once was. At best you form a new relationship and move forward. Think forward to what you think is realistic and find the step to work toward it. If your relationship is over you'll need to find some coping skills so you can move forward with your own life. There are some great threads about coping with loss and moving on hers on LS . And some tips about second chances. This might be the end of your relationship as you knew it but remember that after an end there is a new beginning.
soccerrprp Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 What a mess. What a mess. Hokey is right. In my opinion, the consideration/entertainment of a threesome was already a bad sign.
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