nescafe1982 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Sometimes it just sucks being right. You know what I hate? When I am SO sure I'm right about something, but so many other people around me seem so sure of the opposite that I start to think I'm wrong. And then it turns out I was right... after I've abandoned my original perception. I hate that. 1
gaius Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I'm always right and it hasn't prevented me from being happy or having successful relationships. 1
Els Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I think there's something to be said for choosing your battles. Some things are very important - in that case, 'right' trumps all, because without at least a decent compromise there is no 'happy' in the equation to begin with. Some things really don't matter, in that case 'happy' is better. For instance, it really doesn't bug me that he thinks his stupid RTS's are better than Skyrim. 1
MidwestUSA Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Great discussion...like I said, no wrong answers here. Just wondering, is there a distinction you make in your mind for romantic relationships/ marriage as opposed to careers or jobs? I know for me there really is a distinction. My work I have to be right or billions of dollars are wasted and people aren't managed correctly whereas with my wife we share so many values that compromise on the small stuff doesn't really chaff my mule or anything... G You know, if you google 'chaff my mule' (as I did, because I'd never heard it, not even here on the ranch) it brings you right back to this thread. I'm contacting Mr. Webster and the Wiki people for you, Grumpy! 1
Mrlonelyone Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 With someone I am in a intimate personal relationship and pertaining to that relationship I'd rather be happy that right. Compromise is what relationships are made of, so long as it's not just one person doing all the compromising. With just about anyone else I'd rather stick to the facts which are by definition right. i.e. Someone tells me that peer reviewed, published and cited scientific reserach is just as valid as whatever opinion they pull out of their @$$ is in for a fight. I have been reading here a lot this week because I have been traveling and bored in airports/subways. Seems like you have two camps of people in this world...one that wants to be right and ones that want to be happy. The right ones will argue their beliefs and points of views to the ground and not budge even though they are unhappy and alone and the ones who want to be happy will argue for compromise, wanting expectations to be transparent and will bend a little of the sake of being happy and with someone. What say you, poster, which one are you? No wrong answers here btw. Just curious as to the mindset of why one would rather be right or be happy. Inquisitively, Grumps 1
Author Grumpybutfun Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 You know, if you google 'chaff my mule' (as I did, because I'd never heard it, not even here on the ranch) it brings you right back to this thread. I'm contacting Mr. Webster and the Wiki people for you, Grumpy! Well it is a classier, more refined way to say.... chafes my a$$ with a slight southern accent. Apparently phonetically spelled at the moment
Author Grumpybutfun Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 With someone I am in a intimate personal relationship and pertaining to that relationship I'd rather be happy that right. Compromise is what relationships are made of, so long as it's not just one person doing all the compromising. With just about anyone else I'd rather stick to the facts which are by definition right. i.e. Someone tells me that peer reviewed, published and cited scientific reserach is just as valid as whatever opinion they pull out of their @$$ is in for a fight. That is the thing about compromise, both parties have to do it for it to be effective. G
ltjg45 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) Considering that my personality allows me to bend for others without any request from me at the end, that would make me side with the "happy" camp. As for the "right" camp, I never did care enough to make sure I prove to others that I am correct, even if what others said, I knew they was wrong without a shadow of a doubt. I rather walk away and let them claim victory than to continue a pointless argument. Edited January 13, 2014 by ltjg45 1
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