Do most woman care about money? or a guy with a lot of money?

[bostonterrier]

All my dad cares about is money, he's a doc and got a lot of it, and all he cares about is increasing the amount of his money, to be honest I don't wanna a penny of it when he dies, i don't make a lot, but I make enough to survive and live a descent life,i've never cared about money,I could live in a trailer and don't care, is money important to a woman? or having a guy with enough money to survive is enough? at least I work for my money and don't depend on the government.

[d0nnivain]

Everybody cares about money to some extent. There are people who are driven by it & making more. Others are content if they have a roof over their heads & food in their bellies.

 

 

The trick is to find somebody whose attitude about money matches yours.

[Shepp]

Not in my circle they don't.

 

I can only think of one girl i know who money would define whether she'd have a relationship with a lad.

 

 

depends on the circles you mix in.

[pteromom]

All my dad cares about is money, he's a doc and got a lot of it, and all he cares about is increasing the amount of his money, to be honest I don't wanna a penny of it when he dies,

 

That's short-sighted. Take the money. Even if money isn't important to you, it could mean a great deal in your future life, or your children's.

 

Donnivain said it well - the key is finding someone who feels the same way you do.

 

I think for most women, they don't want a guy they have to support, and they want basic financial security, but that's it.

[carhill]

Do most woman care about money? or a guy with a lot of money?

 

I can't remember the exact quote my exW used but it went something like this:

 

'Money can't buy happiness but I'd rather be rich and miserable than poor and miserable'

 

This was instructive when caregiving reduced my income substantially and she replaced me with an improved model. Of course, as is usual and customary in such matters, feelings are the driving impetus so completely valid. That's how it goes.

 

Do 'most' women care about money? Well, they're out there competing with men and each other to earn more and get ahead, so my answer would be 'yes', they care about money, and financial security. That's really nothing new, IME. It's a pretty human thing. I doubt it'll change anytime soon. In fact, I'm counting on it not changing. Life is good.

[nescafe1982]

I come from a very poor background, and as a result I spend a lot more time thinking about money than a lot of people so. I also have a lot of anxiety/feelings of shame around money... so yeah, money issues. I;m the miser who breaks a sweat when thinking about buying the "name brand" items at the grocery store. Probably a bit too far in the direction of stingy.

 

But as a woman, I do think money matters. Like to the extent that money is needed to be secure in life. Beyond providing necessities, I guess, it's less material. But my values are that a healthy relationship with money (and the pursuit of money) is a good thing for men (and women!) to possess.

 

You clearly don't share your dad's love of money... and see the pursuit of money for its own sake as not as meaningful. I think that's a healthier attitude to have; after all, if you spend your whole life just trying to get more, more, more, you'll miss a lot of life.

 

Once you identify what your relationship to money is, precisely, your goal is to find a woman who shares those values. But it sounds to me like you have a healthy value here: you see money as a means of security, but not a goal to pursue for no reason at all. I think most healthy, well-balanced women will share that value with you.

[jm2013]

I think it's how you project yourself when you've got money. If you're a complete idiot and go out of your way to belittle other people who don't have it or make other people feel uncomfortable being around you then there's a problem. Most women should like a humble wealthy man who can support their thirst for materialistic things most women require. And I'm not sure why somebody would want to torment themselves living in a filthy shack with a roof over their head.

 

In no way shape or form does that sound desirable by any means. And I'd guess that would be unattractive to most women. Those things are usually judged on the first date. You're being analyzed the second you pull up. Your car, the clothes you wear, your house. These could all be subconscious but whether you like it or not the second you step foot outside you're already marketing yourself and doing personal branding of who you are. So to answer the questions yes I think everybody should care about money. It doesn't have to be a lot of money but should be enough to live a secure fulfilling life.

[Eggplant]

Earning capability in and of itself is almost insignificant compared to the other priorities I have in a partner. If at the end of the day, I don't love and trust and enjoy spending time with the guy in my house, all his money wouldn't really add that much to my life. Particularly since I can make more than enough myself, and I don't even care about material stuff that much.

[MissBee]

All my dad cares about is money, he's a doc and got a lot of it, and all he cares about is increasing the amount of his money, to be honest I don't wanna a penny of it when he dies, i don't make a lot, but I make enough to survive and live a descent life,i've never cared about money,I could live in a trailer and don't care, is money important to a woman? or having a guy with enough money to survive is enough? at least I work for my money and don't depend on the government.

 

There's no such thing as if it is important to "a women"...it is important to some women yes, some women aspire to be with a wealthy man who will finance their lives and I have one acquaintance in particular who solely dates professional athletes because that's the circle she could get into and her single goal is to marry rich. She will not look at a man if he isn't making millions, so for someone like her, money is of prime importance.

 

I think most women wouldn't turn down a man because he is "too wealthy" but will feel more reservations if he isn't doing well. But even so, I and the women I'm friends with date men based on being compatible and them having some kind of productive career and way of supporting themselves and aren't chasing men whose mission in life is to stockpile money.

 

For me: once you have a career you enjoy, you can support yourself, we can afford a lifestyle that we like and afford to do the things we want to do then I'm fine. I don't want to struggle in life and live from hand to mouth and always anxious about bills and money and that's the only reason why money matters for me, so I can live comfortably. But I am not at all interested in money for money's sake and don't have a preoccupation with how much a man makes.

Edited January 10, 2014 by MissBee

[Imported]

I just watched "Wolf Of Wallstreet" recently and I like what Decaprio's character calls money.

 

"I think of these ($100 bills) as fun coupons!"

 

I think most women expect you to have enough "survival" coupons to cover you and them. Having enough to also think of money as "fun coupons" is always nice as well.

[lollipopspot]

All my dad cares about is money, he's a doc and got a lot of it, and all he cares about is increasing the amount of his money

 

That would be a turn off to me. If I'm with a doctor, I want to be with the kind who is in it to help others, moreso than blow up his bank account. I don't even trust doctors who are too much about money - I have seen them perform procedures that don't need to be done.

[ponchsox]

The best way to tell a person's true heart is what they give, not what they make.

[carhill]

That would be a turn off to me. If I'm with a doctor, I want to be with the kind who is in it to help others, moreso than blow up his bank account. I don't even trust doctors who are too much about money - I have seen them perform procedures that don't need to be done.

I recall one who was picking my brain about designing a new orthopedic instrument (designing is part of my skillset and profession) and, when I shifted the discussion to some common sense questions about a gall bladder issue I was dealing with, he suggested I make an appointment with my doctor. I suggested he make an appointment with my patent attorney about licensing rights Fµckers. Typical male, but he was married so I can understand why.

[Silly_Girl]

 

I think most women expect you to have enough "survival" coupons to cover you and them. Having enough to also think of money as "fun coupons" is always nice as well.

 

Most women I know don't expect that. If they're broke they expect to remain financially responsible for themselves, however tough, and their partner to be able to do the same. In reality sharing finances is often useful and may end up with the male earning the lion's share, but that's down to many other factors, not the women being gold-diggers.

[M30USA]

What's the difference between a creepy stalker and a secret admirer?

 

Answer: the size of his wallet.

[OpheliaSong]

No we only care about video games and pizza.

[JDPT]

I've predominantly met women who originally didn't come across as materialistic but upon discovery I realized that money making/earning/digging was their objective.

I'm financially solvent and I would never look for a woman to support me. In a relationship, I'm not looking to support anyone, she must have the capability to pull her own weight as well, and I've learned this through experience.

Clearly, in times of distress I would help out financially, however, with the understanding that she would do the same for me.