Oxygen13 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Hi, first thread. Figured I'd tell you guys the story (And the reason I first found this forum, 3 years ago) Its somewhat a success story, or as successful as a story can be on a forum like this. About 3 years ago I met this girl and we fell for each other like something out of a movie, I almost cringe saying that, but that's the truth. She was a student, and I had just joined the Military (Not the US, btw) She was having some issues with her landlord(He was a violent drug addict, and would actually do lines off the dinning table, crazy eh?) so at about the 2-3 month mark she was basically living at my place. Eventually about a 2 months later we got a bigger place together at a very nice condo complex (Pool, gym, theater room, swanky ****). I paid for everything as she was in school (Paid for by her parents). It wasn't until this time that the issues started. I realized just how lazy she was, she did nothing around the house, didn't do her assignments, or help with anything. Daily, id make dinner and ask for help in the kitchen (Just to talk with her, as she was a miserable cook) but she would say she has to study, mean while i'd hear her watching youtube in the other room. She'd fail her assignment and tests. She started claiming that I wasn't being faithful if I was home 10 minutes off my usual time. It was crazy some of the stuff she'd come up with. Anyways, I found out that its sometimes the guilt of cheating that causes you to accuse others. I left for the gym but forgot my headphones and walked back up to my apartment and walked in on her nude camming with some dude. Wasn't happy, told her to pack her **** and walk out. She said all the usual bull**** you hear from cheating sluts. She was tricked, she was abused as a kid, shes sorry, she'll never do it again, ect. I was a nice guy back then and to trusting, we worked through it. My reasoning was he was from another country and that they hasn't actually had sex. (Thanks to the geographical distance, not her morals) Maybe 3 months past and I was being sent away for an operation. While I was away Id call her everyday, eventually she stopped picking up her phone, or say she couldn't talk long. Then one day she told me she wanted to go to a different college for a different program.....single. This crushed me, the girl I loved wasn't going to wait for me. I basically said "ok" and had not spoken to her since then. When I got back, all her stuff was gone, as well as some of my furniture. We were together about 2 years. I felt like the biggest piece of ****. Fast forward 3 years since, I haven't spoken or seen her since the day I left on operation. I get a phone call from her out of the blue, I was so surprised and confused. She explained how her life had fallen apart after he took off. I loved hearing all the details (Don't judge me) She told me: -She got pregnant by the next guy -He has no job and told her to **** off when he found out she was preggers -She never went back to school -Lives in a basement apartment I could tell by the manner in which she spoke that she was looking for me to help her out. I agreed to meet up with her over the holidays (Se lives 4 hours from me, but i'd be passing through to see family) We met for coffee, and basically rubbed in my success, told her about my new job(Bomb disposal), the pay, my new car, how I bought a loft, all the countries Iv traveled to, ect) She basically told me she wanted to give us another chance, I told her "Not a chance in hell, thanks for the coffee" and walked out. Moral of the story, these girls are common street trash, nothing to be upset over. 12
Kopite Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Hahaha. I was reading through and shaking my head at you thinking that you had taken her back but that last line...Good job! I feel sorry for her kid to be honest. 2
Author Oxygen13 Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 Glad you guys enjoyed my story! It was pretty brutal at the time, but I look back now and just think to myself, "I can't believe you were so distraught over that girl". Its crazy what our hearts, minds, and lets be honest, dic ks can do to mess with our better judgement as men. 3
flightplan Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Glad you guys enjoyed my story! It was pretty brutal at the time, but I look back now and just think to myself, "I can't believe you were so distraught over that girl". Its crazy what our hearts, minds, and lets be honest, dic ks can do to mess with our better judgement as men. I'm glad you finally found a place of peace. We know this on a logical level but we're waiting for our hearts to catch up with a rational mind. I think a lot of guys have more than one "love of our life". I had one in my early twenties and to this day I still view her as an amazing woman. Yeah, she broke my heart. I regret the BU, but can still see why I pined over her, but the pain went away. Unfortunately I find myself going through it again, but this is life and I'll live. Again, congrats on your journey.
Author Oxygen13 Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I'm glad you finally found a place of peace. We know this on a logical level but we're waiting for our hearts to catch up with a rational mind. I think a lot of guys have more than one "love of our life". I had one in my early twenties and to this day I still view her as an amazing woman. Yeah, she broke my heart. I regret the BU, but can still see why I pined over her, but the pain went away. Unfortunately I find myself going through it again, but this is life and I'll live. Again, congrats on your journey. So true and I completely agree. I always thought that if I didn't know her, and met her for the first time today, would I have the same feelings? Was it my age, the fact that she was my first love, circumstances of my environment, or a combination of?
Sugarkane Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I am so happy to read about someone NOT giving their Ahole ex a second chance. I envy you, this would only happen if I contacted them.
Sugarkane Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 This is the only thing I wanted, so why has it never happened to me?!
notthathard Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 This is the only thing I wanted, so why has it never happened to me?! This was 3 years later with the OP. Who knows you might just get it one day. If you do then do something like this guy did.
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