Haydn Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Is this really important? You blocked her and for some bad reason you unblocked her. You opened up Pandora`s box again. For what? 2
Author gigahill Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 I only unblocked her because I'm completely over her and thought it wouldnt really be a big deal? I opened up Pandora's box, but she closed it, so it's OK again : )
innocentbutterfly Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 you got it all figured yet you asked here. If you dont care why wonder then. Btw personally I think this blocking thing sucks. I don't block people, ever. Unless someone is harrasing me. However my ex did that too, and then unblocked when I sent him bda gift after, still has me blocked on other fb. When I mentioned to have me unblocked he got angry telling me to stop talking to him (we are trying some weird friendship) either way. immature. that block option. Like in real life you just shove up your hand up to someone's face and say 'talk to the hand'? please. it just makes it easier for people that are afraid to face the real conversation. You can simply ignore, but no, you gotta block, right. I'll never understand people like that. Its immature to me.
lop98 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 nah, it's not the equivalent of talking to the hand. It's going to be a year since I blocked my ex, I blocked him because the breakup was painful, he was with someone else and feeling rejected over and over every single time he ignored me and I saw his name was hurting me, it kept me from focusing on something else, it kept me wondering if he was going to talk me maybe in the next hour or the next day or ever. Knowing every bridge was burned and we were never going to talk because technically there was NO way of talking again was a HUGE relief. It hurt at first but after a few months it felt amazing being back to my old self, and I could have never done that if I had kept him around, and keeping him around unfortunately includes seeing his status turn green because he's online and triggering all the thoughts again. One step forward, two steps back. No, thank you. For me not blocking him and keeping him around occasionally engaging in some meaningless 'how are you's when I loved him deeply and wanted him back and couldn't emotionally handle that treatment would have been far more immature and stupid than simply keeping him out of my life in every way (physical, virtual) so I could focus in nothing but moving on and looking forward, accepting he was gone for good. One scenario that may equal the virtual world and that has nothing to do with "talk to the hand" is being fired from a job. So you sometimes used to go grab coffee everyday at 9 am with your boss, one day though, he just fires you. He has his reasons, fair enough. Will I call him and tell him I'm meeting him up at 9 am at the nearby Starbucks because I'm mature, and "not afraid"? PLEASE to that. It doesn't mean you're immature, it just means that the relationship or link that sustained a seemingly small routine disappeared, no need to fake something that has now been broken. Anyway, you blocked her for a year and now 'it's her turn'. Just go back to blocking her and cut that crap. 3
Sugarkane Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 It's not immature. Dumpees are hurting, dumpers usually don't care less. Dumpers usually don't care at all and don't want us, so I wouldn't care what they think about being blocked. Usually they would think nothing of it. This dumper is just another cheater with no conscience anyway. you got it all figured yet you asked here. If you dont care why wonder then. Btw personally I think this blocking thing sucks. I don't block people, ever. Unless someone is harrasing me. However my ex did that too, and then unblocked when I sent him bda gift after, still has me blocked on other fb. When I mentioned to have me unblocked he got angry telling me to stop talking to him (we are trying some weird friendship) either way. immature. that block option. Like in real life you just shove up your hand up to someone's face and say 'talk to the hand'? please. it just makes it easier for people that are afraid to face the real conversation. You can simply ignore, but no, you gotta block, right. I'll never understand people like that. Its immature to me.
innocentbutterfly Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 guys I was talking about a dumper blocking here. I never said anything about a dumpee blocking if that makes it easier for you, sure. But dumpers blocking is what I was pointing out there bothering me
Author gigahill Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 What you have to remember is that I didn't block her, my friends did because they said it would help the healing process, and tbh, it did! Because I wasn't about to 'snoop'. And I asked here because this is what this website is for isn't it? I wasn't exactly sure, and other people have said different reasons, which is cool! I'm not sure if she cheated Sugarkane, but she was a big liar, so who knows. But more importantly, i don't care anymore. Thanks for the responses!
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