isisisweeping Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 What tips do you have to relax and date around? My friends all insist I need to just date a bunch of guys casually for a few months. However, I had to disable my profile because the amount of messages from guys was stressing me out. Then, I'm having some issues even just messaging and light dates with more than one guy at a time. It feels weird to me. The first guy I went out with is very smart and very nice, and I dig him. He even brought me a small gift at the start of the second date (first real date) relevant to something I casually mentioned the first time around. I mentioned this to my friends and they were about to shake me. I've mainly been in long term relationships my whole life. Anyways, any tips for relaxing and getting to know multiple people at a time for people who are not used to casual dating?
PegNosePete Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Why are you forcing yourself, and allowing your friends to force you, to do something you don't feel comfortable with? Why did your friends shake you about accepting a nice gift from a guy who liked you? Sounds sweet and thoughtful to me.
Sand Man Dan Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 What tips do you have to relax and date around? My friends all insist I need to just date a bunch of guys casually for a few months. However, I had to disable my profile because the amount of messages from guys was stressing me out. Then, I'm having some issues even just messaging and light dates with more than one guy at a time. It feels weird to me. The first guy I went out with is very smart and very nice, and I dig him. He even brought me a small gift at the start of the second date (first real date) relevant to something I casually mentioned the first time around. I mentioned this to my friends and they were about to shake me. I've mainly been in long term relationships my whole life. Anyways, any tips for relaxing and getting to know multiple people at a time for people who are not used to casual dating? DON'T SELL OUT Your friends sound jaded, cynical, and slutty. If you are uncomfortable multi dating-THAT IS A SIGN OF LIFE. It means you're not just keeping your options open with the attitude of letting men come to you. And to me, someone like you, who is only about dating one person at a time, who values kindness and quality over edginess and boldness, seems intelligent to me. And intelligent discernment is VERY attractive.
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 First & foremost you have to be true to yourself, who you are as a person. Some people just aren't cut out for dating multiple people simultaneously. They are better one on one. If you really want to try it though. . .try scheduling dates with 2 different people in the same week. Just 2. See how you feel. If you hate it, don't do it again.
Sand Man Dan Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 What tips do you have to relax and date around? My friends all insist I need to just date a bunch of guys casually for a few months. However, I had to disable my profile because the amount of messages from guys was stressing me out. Then, I'm having some issues even just messaging and light dates with more than one guy at a time. It feels weird to me. The first guy I went out with is very smart and very nice, and I dig him. He even brought me a small gift at the start of the second date (first real date) relevant to something I casually mentioned the first time around. I mentioned this to my friends and they were about to shake me. I've mainly been in long term relationships my whole life. Anyways, any tips for relaxing and getting to know multiple people at a time for people who are not used to casual dating? DON'T SELL OUT Your friends sound jaded, cynical, and slutty. If you are uncomfortable multi dating-THAT IS A SIGN OF LIFE. It means you're not just keeping your options open with the attitude of letting men come to you. And to me, you seem intelligent. And intelligent discernment is VERY attractive. Stick to the way you are, because honestly, you're rarer than most women. Your friends to me would be considered "dime a dozen"
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