ponchsox Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I was doing so well, but I broke down last night and reached out to my ex GF. I was feeling horrible after being rejected by a recent date and for some reason I felt the need to relight an old flame. I feel better this morning and hope I do not contact her again because she is not the answer. 2
David87 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I was doing so well, but I broke down last night and reached out to my ex GF. I was feeling horrible after being rejected by a recent date and for some reason I felt the need to relight an old flame. I feel better this morning and hope I do not contact her again because she is not the answer. What happend tell us the story, did you call her, send her a text ?
Fufu Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I was doing so well, but I broke down last night and reached out to my ex GF. I was feeling horrible after being rejected by a recent date and for some reason I felt the need to relight an old flame. I feel better this morning and hope I do not contact her again because she is not the answer. I have been there broke NC tons of times too. It's alright, get back into the NC and you can do it! 1
barky2 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Smh ps you were doing really good. Glad you learned a lesson, next time you'll remember how it went. Barky
JDPT Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Live and learn my friend. The last thing you want to do is dwell on this. Simply learn from this experience and continue to power through. It's over as difficult as it may be this was just another confirmation that I'm confident jolted some awareness in you. Dust yourself off and back on the saddle you go on your way to recovery. 3
Romaks Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I've definitely been there, my friend. The important thing is to not beat yourself up for it because in the end, you did what you had to do and you learned from your mistakes.
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 We don't "stay" doing well. We take a step forward, and a step back. You are just like everyone else in that regard. One day at a time you are making great progess. Don't forget that. 2
organizedchaos Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I was doing so well, but I broke down last night and reached out to my ex GF. I was feeling horrible after being rejected by a recent date and for some reason I felt the need to relight an old flame. I feel better this morning and hope I do not contact her again because she is not the answer. Was this the new girl you just took out?
Author ponchsox Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 Was this the new girl you just took out? Yes. It felt good to date again but I didn't feel a chemistry with her either. Everything I'm doing at this point as far as dating feels forced and I'm just doing it to show myself I can move on. I feel like I'm starting all over again finding someone I have chemistry with and I'm not sure at feel like going through it again. This is why I got depressed last night, wishing the good times with my ex were the same.
Fufu Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Yes. It felt good to date again but I didn't feel a chemistry with her either. Everything I'm doing at this point as far as dating feels forced and I'm just doing it to show myself I can move on. I feel like I'm starting all over again finding someone I have chemistry with and I'm not sure at feel like going through it again. This is why I got depressed last night, wishing the good times with my ex were the same. Take your time. Don't have to rush for dating. I remembered I finally date the first time after I was thawed from my frozen stage (single for so long), I was feeling so awkward and weird throughout the date. I didn't have much chemistry with the guys but it's good to be out there again. 1
seekingpeaceinlove Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 You tried going out and it didn't feel right. You're not ready. Stop forcing yourself if it feels uncomfortable and learn how to enjoy being on your own. Eventually you will have a strong urge to put yourself out there again and enjoy doing it! 1 step back, 2 steps forward. Yes. It felt good to date again but I didn't feel a chemistry with her either. Everything I'm doing at this point as far as dating feels forced and I'm just doing it to show myself I can move on. I feel like I'm starting all over again finding someone I have chemistry with and I'm not sure at feel like going through it again. This is why I got depressed last night, wishing the good times with my ex were the same.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Nooooooo! Man, I can't believe it. You were doing so well. If dating is causing you grief, then take a break until you are stronger. Don't let anything break NC. Nothing!!! 2
Haydn Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 You will know when you meet the right girl. Been in your spot friend made all the mistakes. Climb back on. Yes. It felt good to date again but I didn't feel a chemistry with her either. Everything I'm doing at this point as far as dating feels forced and I'm just doing it to show myself I can move on. I feel like I'm starting all over again finding someone I have chemistry with and I'm not sure at feel like going through it again. This is why I got depressed last night, wishing the good times with my ex were the same. 1
Author ponchsox Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 Even though I broke contact, it's two steps forward and one step back. A couple months ago it was one step forward and two steps back.
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