mortensorchid Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I can honestly say that I am speechless over what this man said to me tonight. He said I have bad breath and I have cankles. It bothers him. I said is that the only thing that bothers him about me? He said he didn't want me to feel like an old maid and he felt pity for me which is why he got together with me to begin with. I was just sitting with my mouth hanging open, I am not hearing this am I?! This is like a nightmare. He said he's shallow he just doesn't like cankles which I have. How could someone be so cruel? I swear I am not making this up.
regine_phalange Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I didn't know what cankles are, googled it, and still not sure. I hope that you tossed your drink on his face! 3
Emilia Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 OP, is this the guy who wasn't sure about dating you because he was interested in some other woman as well but you were going to stick with him anyway? Your posts often seem to about men not treating you well and your allowing them to dominate you.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Tell him he has a small dick (if you got that far). 5
Poppygoodwill Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Ouch. I'm sorry he was mean to you. Best not to give him even one more minute of your time and energy. Forget him immediately and move on.
BikerAccnt Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 He must have really wanted to end that date!
Minnie09 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 What happened before that??? Something must've led up to that..... Where did that happen? I'm not going to date THERE!
newmoon Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 what is a cankle? anyhow, you must have insulted him; guys strike out like that when their ego has been hurt. this is over, right? you can't continue dating him...
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Cankle - where the calf directly meets the ankle and there's no inward 'bottleneck' narrowing... this British/Iranian comedienne has 'cankles.... This lady doesn't....
Mrlonelyone Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Well you don't need to talk to him anymore.
Author mortensorchid Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I am not sure what was more shocking of those statements : calling me an old maid, his telling me about the cankles / bad breath , or that he was so shallow as he said he wasn't able to see past such things. My cankles aren't as bad as some are, but I think I was just astounded. The man couldn't not deserve me (let alone any form of happiness) to begin with. It was so shocking to hear someone say that. I have no words for it, does anyone?
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I'd quit churning your brain up with this phukkwit, and move on. It doesn't matter. HE doesn't matter. If he's shallow, he plumbed the depths for something to say and didn't have to look far. So you're better off without him. Let it go, move on. he's a dickhead. 6
deathandtaxes Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I am not sure what was more shocking of those statements : calling me an old maid, his telling me about the cankles / bad breath , or that he was so shallow as he said he wasn't able to see past such things. My cankles aren't as bad as some are, but I think I was just astounded. The man couldn't not deserve me (let alone any form of happiness) to begin with. It was so shocking to hear someone say that. I have no words for it, does anyone? Some people just have no class and have to be mean and put down others to make themselves feel better. This man is definitely not a gentleman. 6
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 You should have kicked him right in the nuts with your cankle! or where it would be if you had one. Look, this guy was looking to bring you down and build himself up...he's a selfish guy critiquing women like they're just trophies of sexual desire...the guy has no class, no respect and no common sense, don't spent another minute around him, and don't even waste your time or breathe saying anything him...that's just giving him more respect and attention than the guy should be getting. Don't listen to his comments and take them to heart, a lot of guys do this to break a woman down...it's a manipulation tactic, don't listen to it. If you're the kind of girl he thinks you are, he expects you to just crumble and for him to hold the power over you. Roll your eyes at it, unfortunately you didn't throw your drink in his face or give him a good kick/slap, because he really deserved it...I know that is very cruel and hurtful but for a guy like that who's only thinking of himself, your faults are his only concern...he thinks much to highly of himself, and you should have definitely threw something back at him before leaving, trust me the guy isn't confident he's just good at dishing it out, not taking it...they never are, they're very sensitive when it comes to themselves. 5
clia Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 How did this even come up in conversation? Were you out on a date with him?
xxoo Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 He sounds like an immature teen, not a Man. Which would have been a decent response.
nescafe1982 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 You dented his ego in some way. This. And also, he was a tool. Seriously. Who goes that far out of their way to hurt someone out of nowhere? I think I would have tossed my drink in his face before he got as far as he did. 2
nescafe1982 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Also (and sorry to double post), I bet this guy has more than his share of unadmirable physical traits, right? I mean, aside from his sparkling personality... It amazes me to no end how dudes with clear shortcomings will be so quick to knock down women for stupid things. If I had to picture the man in this post, I bet he has a receding hair-line, a soft jaw, and a pot belly. Am I right?
Trapito Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 (edited) What an ass! Building himself up while kicking you down. I assume he has a very bad case of low self esteem. If you ever run in to him again, tell him you looooove his receiding hairline. Ha! edit: just noticed Nescafe also mentioned the receiding hairline. So it MUST be true! Edited January 10, 2014 by Trapito 1
Author mortensorchid Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 Thanks one and all for your observations. I have no words to attest to this, I have never encountered such a thing in my life. Unless the person was threatening my physically, I would never lash out at someone verbally. That would hurt their feelings. I guess life is about one big social experiment. What else can I say except that it's ... Bad. Maybe I'll write a blog about living with cankles and share it later on.
Trapito Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Cankles are sooo 2014! **** him! Never let anybody talk you down, you are fabulous! 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Cankles never stopped Hillary Clinton. Unfortunately they didn't stop Monica either
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