APGHD Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 My ex and I were committed to each other for about a year, she dumped me 4 weeks ago. She "fell out of love" and I don't blame her, I started to take her for granted. Shee said she was unhappy, and had been for a while but just "didn't know it" ? She seemed happy, and everything was going well, but she realized she had been unhappy the week before the break up. Is it actually possible to be unhappy but not realize it? She also said she had only thought about breaking up with me for about a week prior. Will that work in my favor? We were extremely special to each other and still are (firsts, common interests, natural attraction neither of us have felt for others). I really want her back, she's the only girl I have ever connected with, and I know that if she found her way back to me that it would be infinitely better than the first because I learned from my countless mistakes. What makes this situation more difficult is the fact that we were best friends before our feelings grew, even before we dated she was the only one I could always rely on.
wordisbond Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 sorry to hear dude im in such a similar situation i went no contact lasted 8 days seen her for dinner now im no contact back upto day 3... i don't know what to do.. or what to tell you. i hope it works out for ya man i'll follow ya story to see if it can help me aswell
Armyguy123 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 You just gotta roll with the punches my man. I dated my ex for 9 months then she dumped out of the blue 2 years ago. She left me only for about 3 weeks after I started trying to move on. We got back together for 1.5 years and the connection was like you said infinitely stronger.... she did the same thing to me again and left me even more heartbroken. My only suggestion is to go No Contact, everyone else on here will suggest the same. The first month will be the hardest and almost hell at times. Once you get to a few months the pain will subside and become like I call a "scab with a bandaid" any contact if false hope from the ex will tear this bandaid off and the scab with it and force you start over. Its not easy my friend. It took me 2 months of ripping the band aid off to finally realize what I had to do. You can read my roller coaster of a break up and actually see my emotions. In hindsight I wish I went NC from the start. Litterally everyone who knows that they are talking about will tell you to go NC. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking- up/420941-got-dumped-out-blue-do-i-stand-chance-get-her-back-update Also take a look at this summary of GIGS (Grass is Greener Syndrome) http://www.relationshiptalk.net/all-you-need-to-know-about-gigs-grass-is-greener-syndrome-2076.html
Fufu Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 My ex and I were committed to each other for about a year, she dumped me 4 weeks ago. She "fell out of love" and I don't blame her, I started to take her for granted. Shee said she was unhappy, and had been for a while but just "didn't know it" ? She seemed happy, and everything was going well, but she realized she had been unhappy the week before the break up. Is it actually possible to be unhappy but not realize it? She also said she had only thought about breaking up with me for about a week prior. Will that work in my favor? We were extremely special to each other and still are (firsts, common interests, natural attraction neither of us have felt for others). I really want her back, she's the only girl I have ever connected with, and I know that if she found her way back to me that it would be infinitely better than the first because I learned from my countless mistakes. What makes this situation more difficult is the fact that we were best friends before our feelings grew, even before we dated she was the only one I could always rely on. Yes there are people who suddenly feel that what they have felt for the other person is not as strong or real as they thought to be. My only advice here is to start NC, you can't make someone to get back to you if she doesn't want to be with you willingly.
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