why oh why Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Really finding this NC so hard..... just need to sit down and talk i dont wsnt to throw away 9 yrs of marrige......part if me thinks ask if she wants to meet for coffee and a chat....but also feel I will just get ignored like she does if I msg her. On a downer today
wordisbond Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 hey man i lasted 8 days no contact then i asked my ex if she was free for dinner... she said she was free but she was confused... i asked why... she said because i told her i can't talk to her anymore and im no contact etc.. i told her i needed to do that to give myself and her a bit of space... we ended up going for dinner getting ice cream and having a really good night... i asked her if she had even missed me during those 8 days and she said no.. those 8 days of no contact i did pretty hard... but after seeing her for dinner i was back to where i started i didn't know where i stood... i went no contact again and nobody has said a word since she got out of my car after taking her home from dinner, we left on good terms... the first 2 days of no contact after seeing her i was fine i was all good with everything but today is day 3 and im struggling again i don't know what to do... so it's upto you man you can contact her and she'll either say yes or no... if its a yes you'll most likely get your fix and be happy for a day or 2 but you'll be back where you started
Volthi10 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Damn nC is hard...was on day 2 but he texted about a bill... I replied cold and serious.... I really want to move on and be happy :/
Author why oh why Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I don't want a quick fix I want to try and sort things...but just feel its going to just make it worse....didn't know how that can be as she has removed me from her life but you know what I mean.
David87 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I don't want a quick fix I want to try and sort things...but just feel its going to just make it worse....didn't know how that can be as she has removed me from her life but you know what I mean. Your job as a dumpee is to give her space and respect her decision.(Move on) Her job as a dumper is to contact you only if she wants a reconciliation. Simple as that. 3
Haydn Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Shes got to come to you friend. She has no sway in your life now. Up to her in the long run, not your issue. 9 years or 6 months.
sw2020 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Sounds like you're having a pretty rough time of it. Lots of support on this forum. I have no idea what it's like for a marriage to break down, but I imagine it's pretty catastrophic. Maybe set some targets for yourself and try focus on staying occupied. Although that is not easy in itself. Best of luck dude.
Volthi10 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Your job as a dumpee is to give her space and respect her decision.(Move on) Her job as a dumper is to contact you only if she wants a reconciliation. Simple as that. Well said and the dumpers don't get that. My ex keep wanting us to be friends but he doesn't understand how that affects me. Every text, every talk, is a misinterpretation of me hoping he wants me back.
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