Dreams about family members that have passed?

[BornToDie]

Bear with me here. Maybe I'm at the wrong forum, but I just got to thinking about the dreams I've had since my mom died of cancer two years ago (I'm 21), and I can't help but wonder if anyone else has any interesting experiences. I am over her passing, but she appears in my dreams often, and we're mostly doing things we used to do together. In one, she was helping me pick out a wedding dress, and I thought that was odd because my boyfriend and I had been talking about marriage at the time. What's even odder is that in the dreams, everyone knows she still has cancer, but she's either getting better or staying the same.

 

Aside from that, I had a dream about my grandmother at 6 years old the night before she died (also of cancer). She was getting in a nice red convertible and telling me that she wasn't going to hurt anymore and that she'd see me someday. Next morning, she was gone. My mom always told me she had similar dreams of friends/family who were about to die getting on planes/buses/etc. and telling her goodbye.

 

Call me crazy if you don't believe in it, but I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar. Thoughts?

[Debanked]

Lost both P's and dream about em often. They are always wonderful dreams and it's great to hear their voices and "feel" like I'm with them. I always wake up happy.

[winterpast]

I've had the same happen to me. A family member would appear to me in a dream shortly after their death and tell me not to be sad. Those dreams were always very realistic feeling and I always knew I was asleep at the time. I would just tell myself to wake up after the meeting.

 

My cousin lost her father at a young age. She told me about him coming to her in a dream right after his passing. She thinks she was awake at the time but not sure. He didn't say anything to her but she told him she loved him.

[MixedUpChick]

One of my grandmas has shown up in my dreams a couple times, totally out of the blue.

[Trnamakesnse]

I've dreamt of my grandfather and him teasing me like he always used to do when I was little. For me it's nice I still haven't forgotten and I like to remember how nice he was.

[Tayla]

to those that stayed in our hearts, we "never" get over...that is a myth if ever there was one that we are "over" it. It doesnt work like that. The person follows us in memories, and it just so happens that dreams are memories too.

 

Mine were nightmares in the beginning and to some extent I don't get the "blessings" of comfort after the dreams...If anything it re-validates that they are no longer here to talk with or share good times with.

 

If you do have pleasant dreams...all the better for that loved ones appearence.

[acrosstheuniverse]

When I lost my mum three years ago I had nightmares pretty much every night for months. These days it's usually only once a month or less, it's still usually a nightmare but in a twisted way it's still nice to see her and be near here. I had one nice dream once a year after she died, the most surreal, accurate, clear dream of my life, where I went up to meet her in heaven (I am not religious) and she talked about what it was like up there, how she was always looking out for me and my bro and would always be there, loving us, even if we couldn't feel her. I vividly remember knowing I had forty minutes with her, and then hugging her goodbye, getting back in the elevator (it was a heaven hotel!) and returning back outside. It was the most unbelievable thing to experience.

 

I cherish every experience of meeting her in my dreams because I'll never get that in awake land again for the rest of my life.

[preraph]

At least part of the time, you are communicating with their spirits. Your mom did the same, so it's little wonder she's active in your dreams now. I had a deceased great grandfather I never met and whose name I didn't know (or at least remember knowing) introduce himself to me when I was in alpha state (not quite asleep). He just pushed out my other thoughts and there he was telling me his name. I had to ask my aunt who he was by name. You may be able to do it in meditation as well. Sit down, relax, try to clear you mind and protect yourself by only inviting protective spirits or certain loved ones, and just ask if they have anything to tell you. Once one of them (my mom probably or maybe an aunt -- there was nothing to say who) gave me a word "scrapbook." Now, I never did scrap book, but the closest thing to it was I had been thinking about organizing my recipes into scrapbook like notebooks, which I did over the next week, and when I did, it was the most pleasant experience -- and usually I'm too impatient to enjoy something like that. Spirits were onboard!