natt_99 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 So my ex boyfriend's birthday is coming up and I was wondering if I should wish him a happy birthday? He broke up with me around 3 months ago. He kept texting me after and a few days before my b-day he sent me a message saying "happy birthday wish you the best" like 2 days before my actual b-day. He then texted me again asking "if I had a party on my b-day" I think he wanted to get invited hahaha. However now we have around 1 month in which we haven't texted AT ALL. So now his b-day is coming up and I was wondering if it will be good to text him since he texted me a happy b-day? And if I do should I use Kik or facebook wall post ?
MrMeh Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 You said he texted you because he was probably bored. Don't even bother.
Shashasha Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 don't text him if you still have feelings for him.
Author natt_99 Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I don't I already have a boyfriend.
Shashasha Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I don't I already have a boyfriend. Its really upto you then. Text if you wanna!
jphcbpa Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 how would your current bf feel about this? imo, if you have to ask...the answer is no 2
skela Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I probably wouldn't but if you really want to just post it on facebook. Less personal than a text.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 If you have a BF who you really actually like and who isn't just a place filler. (Be honest in your own mind about that). If you really are sure you don't want this ex back even a little. Then why are you even texting him. He's an EX BF not a EX Husband or father of your chidden or something right? There is no relationship between you at all. You owe him nothing. Save it for your current BF's birthday. Or, make a mature and honest move to get your ex back. 2
Arieswoman Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 To answer the original question - No. He is an ex for a reason.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 To answer the original question - No. He is an ex for a reason. Sometimes it's a stupid reason.
Pistol pete Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I think if you are going to do it, Facebook wall post is definitely the way to go. Comments posted on there are so throwaway, it's not like a 'Happy Birthday!' is going to cause your world to implode. I have ex girlfriends that do the same, I barely acknowledge them, I assume that just as everyone else; they only knew it was my birthday because FB reminded them.
Trapito Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Just NO. You have a boyfriend, would you like it if he contacted his ex? It hurts your relationship if you do.
Author natt_99 Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 UPDATE: I had decided not to send him a happy birthday message after thinking about it! HOWEVER he sent me a message after almost 2 months of no contact "so its almost my birthday, what you going to bring me haha"
what_a_blonde Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 UPDATE: I had decided not to send him a happy birthday message after thinking about it! HOWEVER he sent me a message after almost 2 months of no contact "so its almost my birthday, what you going to bring me haha" This guy sounds like a piece of work. Not sure why he's your ex... but why not just not respond at all? If you're serious about your current bf... then: 1) Think about how your current bf would feel if he knew you are still talking to your ex, and 2) Think about what you're even getting out of staying in touch with this ex of yours. P.S. Bravo! On not giving in and sending the Bday post. I was reading the thread and going to respond for you NOT to send him any bday wishes...
KatZee Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 UPDATE: I had decided not to send him a happy birthday message after thinking about it! HOWEVER he sent me a message after almost 2 months of no contact "so its almost my birthday, what you going to bring me haha" I hope you deleted this message. No clue who this kid thinks he is to just dump you and then start acting all "buddy buddy" like you're friends. You're not. Do not respond, do not wish him happy birthday. Focus on your current relationship (and for his sake I hope he's not a rebound.) 1
Author natt_99 Posted January 22, 2014 Author Posted January 22, 2014 I didn't answer him. But around 1 hour later his cousin texted me saying "hey its almost ****'s birthday, I'm gonna go to town to celebrate it, you are coming right?" (his cousin is one of my best friends) Then he asked me "if I had received his cousin's message" so yeah I had to pretend I hadn't seen it and then replied to my ex... He told me "You should come to the bar with me to celebrate my b-day friend" And I replied "I actually have plans already for that day, but I wish you a happy birthday & have a great time" He then replied "Oh it's ok the next day we can celebrate so u can be here" I haven't responded. But his cousin has sent me like 2 messages and I haven't responded neither. His cousin is telling me "there's nothing wrong, we are all friends now" But I feel like his cousin is pressuring me to talk to my ex! I want to reply to my friend but don't know how to, any suggestions will be highly appreciated ! :/
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