Oomlotte Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I cannot communicate with him as I will view it as losing my pride but I am still hoping so much that he'll contact me even though I can't imagine he would or agreeing to see him or talk... nothing can be the same. It's been almost two weeks and I know we could never truly see each other again - why can't I accept it? I'm going through the motions but each day it gets harder and harder to not reach out to him... I've cried every day this week and even thinking of everything that wasn't right I can't stop feeling like it was too soon or that there was something there I just threw away. Today has been a really hard day ...
broken11 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I hope you get better, but trust me it only gets better and you can't fix something that is broken. ur like me I've been broken up with my ex for a month now and he hasn't contacted me and i won't contact him because i don't want to put my pride down. i wanted him to contact me so bad and sometimes i still do wish he at least remembers who I'm but i then i think about how its his lose and even if he contact me i won't talk 2 him. he broke my heart and stuff him i can't just sit around waiting for him. I know you want 2 talk 2 him so bad now but please stay no contact at all. even he contact you ignore him 5
Fufu Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I cannot communicate with him as I will view it as losing my pride but I am still hoping so much that he'll contact me even though I can't imagine he would or agreeing to see him or talk... nothing can be the same. It's been almost two weeks and I know we could never truly see each other again - why can't I accept it? I'm going through the motions but each day it gets harder and harder to not reach out to him... I've cried every day this week and even thinking of everything that wasn't right I can't stop feeling like it was too soon or that there was something there I just threw away. Today has been a really hard day ... It's a total sudden change in your life that you couldn't accept at this point of time. I couldn't accept it initially when my previous ex dumped me out of a sudden of a 3 years relationship. I can't stand not talking with my ex when I used to chat with him daily and meet him weekly and that sudden change in lifestyle shock me badly. It takes time to adjust to your new life. Do not be too hard on yourself, break up recovery process is not a switch on/off process. It is gonna take time and patience and having the perseverance to stay on course. 6
jphcbpa Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 if you can look on the R and know you did all you could do and gave it your all, became fully vulnerable and loving, then you can walk away with integrity. accept your part and learn what you can from this experience. take this time to reflect on you, what makes you tick, why you pick the people you do, what you want in the future. 4
Author Oomlotte Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 Thanks people! It's getting easier
Xemyd Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 I'm 4 months post BU and 2 months NC. When we first broke up I was like you, I was basically in a state of panic at all times. Sure, I still feel like that now, but only once a week or even less. I refuse to contact him even though I have moments where I want to, but he broke up with me, if he wants to talk he knows where to find me, I refuse to be a doormat for him. I think it's a good thing that your pride is getting in the way of contacting him, that certainly helps me. Even when it gets hard, you have pretty much everyone here to rant to, we all get it. You're doing great, so keep it up. 1
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