apetoape Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Met this girl online and have been seeing her for about a 3 months. It was pretty hot and heavy with non stop flirting in the beginning but that has died down substantially. Our "relationship" is undefined, she doesn't ask me questions and I don't touch the subject. The last time we spoke was about a week ago when I asked to see her, but she said she had plans and that she'll let me know when she's free. Sent her a text hours ago, just a light joke and no response so far. I would still like to continue this, but are these signs that she doesn't want to see me anymore? If you've been dating/sleeping with someone for months would you at least tell them its over or would you just ignore them?
nescafe1982 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Why hadn't you discussed your relationship "status" with her, if you don't mind me asking? Was there a reason you didn't feel safe to do so? Relationships take communication. If she's not willing to make space for a simple talk like that one... you can't really build anything significant there. If she's been blowing you off for a week, that's a pretty good indicator that it's over. What a mean, heartless way to end it though... she doesn't sound very nice or mature. Sorry OP.
Author apetoape Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 Well I wanted to keep it light and not rush into things. I didn't want to make anyone feel trapped and thought that a relationship will naturally form as feelings grow. She is definitely not a girl who likes confrontation, but seems like an overall nice person with morals...as far as I know from the duration of us seeing each other.
truth_seeker Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I have to agree she's not nice and immature. Sounds like a pretentious princess used to getting her way, playing games. Don't be surprised if she has been multi-dating this whole time and having you fooled that you're the only guy she was seeing. I bet your "trial period" was up and she went with another guy she liked better. I mean, you met her on OLD. That's what most do on there.
MixedUpChick Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 With your relationship being "undefined", combined with her behavior, it almost sounds like she thinks you guys are just FWB's & therefore I'm assuming she doesn't feel the need to tell you much. I'm not a fan of that type of relationship myself, but it seems like whether that's what you actually had or even if you had something more, you might have wanted to define it somehow so you'd at least both be on the same page. Hopefully you'll hear something from her & can talk about what you have (if you still do have something) or you can at least know if it's over.
MixedUpChick Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I bet your "trial period" was up and she went with another guy she liked better. I mean, you met her on OLD. That's what most do on there. You seem a little bitter Not everyone on dating sites is like that, I've never treated anyone that way & my female friends who met their current guys online didn't either. I hope you won't give up just because you've had some bad experiences. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 At the 3 month mark you should be seeing each other more, not less. Less is an indication that it's ending.
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