wanting more Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Just wondering. I see on here APs say how they'll never love again or never have that connection with another person. Do you believe that? I don't. I'd be a very sad person if I thought that xMM was "the one". And I did love him. It crushed me when things ended. I didnt know how i would survive But i did And maybe because things end so bad for us that my love turned to hate then whatever feelings i had just turned to nothing But I could never believe that as much as I did love him, that would be it. I know when my A ended I thought Id lost my great love but now, over a year after my 3rd d-day I don't/won't believe he was it. 2
MuddyFootprints Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 He's not, because if he were your "really love" you would be together. It takes two to work, two to make the commitment and effort...two to "really love." 2
Lady2163 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I'm going on 11 years since I last loved a man (boyfriend). Each year I forget more and more about him - the good and bad. Each year, I'm Ina better position to be a better partner in a relationship. 1
vanellope Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I also thought the xMM is my real love, he convinced me he is the one by his sweet talking when I told him I want break up. until how he showed me on Dday, action speak louder than world, then I know he just a selfish man who only care himself. 1
goodyblue Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I don't believe in 'one person' that you can love. I just think one person is more compatible with some people than others. The secret is to find someone who is compatible with you.
MissBee Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I don't believe in "the one" in terms of there is only one person on earth that you can have a connection with and fall in love with. My exAP was one of my "ones" but I never thought I would never love again. I did and look forward to falling in love yet again. I don't see why a MP would be different than any other person you broke up with. Although I suppose lots of people also feel they will never love again after breaking it off with single person...but most do. I do believe though that you can be the one who keeps yourself stuck and you can do things to make yourself hung up on this person longer than you should be, romanticize and idealize them and thus never truly move on. That, I think is sad. 3
nicepuzzle Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I was romaticizing and idolizing him after my first break up and kept in my heart for 6 years. Thank god he came back and showed me true color. Today i am truly moving on and feeling close to my partner and finally enjoying sex with him. Key is to go completly NC and let him go from heart. To me it helped to completly destry everything so I cant go back and cant be a hope that he can come back. Just destroy is that bad. There is no good break. If its a good break up they come back or you end up breaing NC. If you want to move on just break things beyond mending things. hopelessness is the key and than you meet someone new with a fresh mind. Just worked with me. 1
MorbidFever Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 He's not, because if he were your "really love" you would be together. It takes two to work, two to make the commitment and effort...two to "really love." Sorry, but this is total bunk. You can definitely NOT be with your true love. Sometimes things don't work or happen the way we want. There are barriers, responsibilities and sometimes we do what is the right thing to do, rather than what our heart tells us. We don't always get what we want. Love is no different. There are a lot of "things" I love in life and would prefer to have, but never will.
MuddyFootprints Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 No need to apologize. I happen to believe that true love in a romantic partnership is reciprocal. It can't be one sided. The op stated that their relationship ended and even though she thought at one point that he was "the one" she now acknowledges that he wasn't. He didn't die. They broke up. For whatever reason, it would seem that one of them wasn't as invested in the relationship as the other.
blue963 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I think that the truth is a key to a good relationship is both giving and caring. If you can find the right person tht you enjoy being around and have that it will work out.
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