Thegreatestthing Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Met him online,really really into him,we live in different states,made worse by fact that I'm Australian and have to go home to Australia. Anyway he's a very good looking guy ,but he sent me this extreme close up pic yesterday where he just looks so awful and it's not just looking awful but he's eyes look really strange/crazy in it and it's completely turned me off him.i feel like it's seared in my brain. It's my fault because he had written me a long email and I had put off replying for one day and a half trying to figure this whole thing out ,I didn't go online,anyway he'd sent five emails since and this weird pic taken thAt day. I'm not put off by the five emails he sent,I really had fallen for him and I can understand he probably panicked that I lost interest,it's just the crazy pic. Whereas before I was really excited by everything,now I think could be a cult member,crazy etc.lots of doubts and confusion! Turned off,maybe he was just really stressed in the pic. Anyway I can get it out of my head,I'm so disappointed.
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 If everything else is good, don't give up because of one bad picture. If you have seen multiple pictures & just aren't attracted to him, fine but to bail over 1 photo seems unduly harsh.
tlegend Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Ok. Can you guess who this is? http://i.imgur.com/oyUfxWE.jpg Yes, thats right. That's 1 awful pic of someone who most people would consider attractive. Puts it into perspective, doesn't it? 4
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I'm trying to feel like I did before it,but I can't,it did feel a bit like he lost the plot(go crazy) yesterday,and I feel really bad like I caused it by making him doubt himself,maybe he doesn't always look like that. Anyway how to get it out of my head.
StanMusial Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Met him online,really really into him,we live in different states,made worse by fact that I'm Australian and have to go home to Australia. Anyway he's a very good looking guy ,but he sent me this extreme close up pic yesterday where he just looks so awful and it's not just looking awful but he's eyes look really strange/crazy in it and it's completely turned me off him.i feel like it's seared in my brain. It's my fault because he had written me a long email and I had put off replying for one day and a half trying to figure this whole thing out ,I didn't go online,anyway he'd sent five emails since and this weird pic taken thAt day. I'm not put off by the five emails he sent,I really had fallen for him and I can understand he probably panicked that I lost interest,it's just the crazy pic. Whereas before I was really excited by everything,now I think could be a cult member,crazy etc.lots of doubts and confusion! Turned off,maybe he was just really stressed in the pic. Anyway I can get it out of my head,I'm so disappointed. All this over some guy you don't know from Adam? 1
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I think you get to know people online the same as in real life,the barriers are often down,I don't think people's energy is confined to time and space.lots of successful relationships start this way. What am I suppose to not like someone because they live in a different state,even though they're exactly like me and I'm attracted to them,I wasn't trying to invest in them which is why I took so long with my reply trying to figure things out.
lollipopspot Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Can you guess who this is? http://i.imgur.com/oyUfxWE.jpg Yes, thats right. That's 1 awful pic of someone who most people would consider attractive. Puts it into perspective, doesn't it? True, but she probably wants to hide it, and isn't actively sending it to people, like this guy. (That's what she looks like on the inside to me, I really dislike that fur hag). OP, ask him to send you another picture. Do you think he might have thought it was a funny picture? Actually, I can totally imagine sending someone a crazy looking picture of myself as a joke, unfortunately.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 No I don't think it was a joke,think he was worried I didn't like him anymore,lost the plot and sent the crazy pic,or could just look like this.i don't think I can get over it I'm doubting his sanity.
SweetCharity Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 It would be really shallow to get so turned off by one picture. Maybe there's a deeper issue here. Maybe you're just afraid to get to close to him and are looking for any excuse to dip?
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 You know I think you're probably right,I just told him look this is pointless to me,and I just wanted to avoid all this. And he replied that's fine,didn't make a huff or anything. And I get the feeling he just no longer cares,since I avoid contact for weeks and make zero effort. Mostly I do it because I'm afraid of getting hurt/involved,but I end up getting badly hurt anyway when they simply move on.
regine_phalange Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Call me superficial, but gaze is very important for me. I would actually be alarmed if I found his gaze weird. I mean, its probable that there is nothing wrong with the guy, but can you imagine him looking at you like that when doing the deed? It's not a paparazzi shot people, it's a picture he thinks he looks good in, that's why he sent it (I guess)!
Emilia Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I think you get to know people online the same as in real life,the barriers are often down,I don't think people's energy is confined to time and space.lots of successful relationships start this way. I don't know how many successful relationships start this way but I disagree that you get to know people online the same as in real life. As you are finding out for yourself. What you get to 'know' is a fantasy. You don't know how that person handles himself in real life. How he talks to people, what his social skills are, how he comes across, whether he shouts at the traffic, rude to the check out woman in a shop, knows how to eat with a knife and fork, picks his nose - or the complete opposite. You don't know the little things that make him up as a person and the first cracks are showing. It's best to meet someone for real as soon as possible before you build up a fake picture in your head. 2
StanMusial Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Call me superficial, but gaze is very important for me. I would actually be alarmed if I found his gaze weird. I mean, its probable that there is nothing wrong with the guy, but can you imagine him looking at you like that when doing the deed? It's not a paparazzi shot people, it's a picture he thinks he looks good in, that's why he sent it (I guess)! One more thing to add to the checklist, fellas. Make sure your "gaze" is appropriate for a given situation. Dang! 2
regine_phalange Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 One more thing to add to the checklist, fellas. Make sure your "gaze" is appropriate for a given situation. Dang! Make it nerdy with a little deprivation. Thanks.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted January 11, 2014 Author Posted January 11, 2014 He said it was from the Iraq war.
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