Brem Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Hey guys. I'm new here and I was wondering what the best option is to ask a girl out. I've been talking to this girl for a few days now and she is really beautiful, yet I'm not sure if she's interested in me. I will be going back to college next week and I was going to ask if she'd like to hang out the weekend after next. I suffer from sever social anxiety and I worry that if I try to meet her I'll end up flaking or messing up big time. How do I go about it? We both enjoy wrestling and that's how I started the conversation off. I complimented her beauty and her art skills and I am just keeping the conversation light. If this is not in the correct area, please do move it. I'm new to all this.
Author Brem Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I wouldn't know.. every time I've asked a girl out on one of those websites they've gone cold. Yeah I know how you feel. There was another girl who I chatted with for like a month and then she just dissapeared on the site. I thought we were getting somewhere, but I guess not. I really like this current girl because she likes some things I like and she's crazy beautiful. It says she's online right now, and I'm waiting for a reply from her. I hope she replies. I am considered asking her to hang out during the weekend after the next. I'm just not sure what we will do if we do end up hanging out.
Aquanut Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Hmm. You might actually want to meet in real life before you decide to hang out together. But maybe in just not down with today's youth culture. In my circle people don't generally "hang out" together unless we already know each other. I didn't start hanging out with any of my girlfriends until we had gone on a few dates and concluded that neither of us were likely axe murderers. First step: short meeting in real life. Public place. I like something with a natural bail out/continue point... Drinks after work that could be just that if there is nothing there or you could stay for dinner if you hit it off, etc. Second step: schedule a real date or move onto next candidate depending on the first step.
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Asking her to hang out is too vague. Contact her-- preferably by voice not text or e-mail -- and ask her to meet you at a specific place, to do a specific activity at a specific time. For safety reasons & her peace of mind, select an inexpensive public venue: Do you want to meet me at the coffee shop on the corner on Friday for an hour?
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