Dennis1988 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 (edited) Hi everyone, I wanted to share something that helped me moved on with my previous break up. I guarantee you it will help you move on faster! Be Addicted! People always say go out with your friends and go out at night meet new people.. The thing is sometimes this doesn't work especially if you are not ready to meet someone new yet.. When I did this it's actually the opposite I just think of my ex more and more and missed her badly. I tried all that being out with friends on the cinema, bars, restaurant, new places and I'm just wishing I was with my ex doing this new things that I'm experiencing.. As of right now you are addicted to your ex. You need to replace this addiction with something else to take your mind of your ex.. There's a lot of things you can do to be addicted. Be addicted to Games (Online Games, Cellphone Apps Games, Etc..) Be addicted to Arts & Crafts (Painting, Drawing , Building, Etc..) Be addicted in collecting something you always want Be addicted to gym (loosing weight, Gaining muscles, Etc..) and a lot more!.. Be sure when you do something you like it and you will enjoy it! And the most important thing you gonna be addicted to it! When you start getting addicted with your new found addiction in a few months trust me your ex will be out of your mind and you will start to think more about your new addiction!! This also helps you focus on doing No Contact! Don't rush and force about meeting someone new.. You can do this when you feel the indifference with your ex and that is the goal!! Find a long term addiction! I hoped this help people here having a hard time.. Find a new addiction that will make you want to do it when you wake up till you sleep. I hope I somehow help on here.. Good luck to everyone and stay strong I know how it feels being so depressed and down everyday Please start doing something something in your life! Edited January 9, 2014 by Dennis1988 11
rosedl Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I totally agree with you. I am so sick with the flu right now and I can't do much but lay in bed. But, I have bought a bunch of jewelry making stuff, so I am going to do that for projects to keep me busy through the winter, once this flu lift. That, and practice my guitar. I wish I wasn't so ill, this is the worse flu I have had in years. But, break ups depress the immune system. The good I can report is that even though I am laying in bed and sick, my heartbreak has lifted a lot in the past week and the longer I don't contact him, the more it ebbs away. I didn't think I would get this lucky, but I guess one good aspect of him taking such constant space was that I started to become numb to it. Hell, the last two months, he wouldn't talk to me while he took SPACE to figure out whether he wanted to be single or with me. I can't miss the everyday because we never really had an everyday. We never lived together, either, so there is no missing daily patterns, as they didn't exist. Part of me always felt on the outside in the relationship, and given that he is an extreme commitment phobe, it isnt really surprising I would feel that way. They keep you at arms length for their safety. Anyway, I am looking forward to getting started. Its been two weeks of this being in bed and it is old. Oh well. Just more rest and oj.
John83 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Good advice. I went through same thing with first love, trying to go out to nightclubs but found myself sitting in corner more depressed that ever. A massive part in getting over that first love all those years ago was starting a car rebuild/restoration project. It worked a treat, in the end i loved that car far more than the ex. Your advice is 100% correct. 1
Mondmellonw Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Music and art are always the better escape to "hard reality". Make music, learn how to play an instrument... You won't regret that
JohnnyLoverBoy Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 wow thanks a lot mate! I notice too when I am out with friends I am just thinking about my ex.. arghh my target is to find a addiction then.. I always like playing this Iphone app games too.. lol
chris21422 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Good advice! More people need to read this.. Though going out from time to time is a must too!
PS.chicago Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I met with a psychologist a couple weeks ago who gave me the exact same advice. I hope this works for all of us. 1
CharlieHarper91 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 It's not permanent. you do this to make your mind occupied to the new addiction. When you feel better and indifference with your ex you can go out there and meet new people and start dating again. Apps are good, but... Second Life!
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